Is it a boy or a girl? Why do you want to know?

[Mumma T]

I have my morph scan in 2 weeks and I am planning on finding out the gender. I actually find it great knowing the gender.

Yes I will paint the nursery but my kid wont care if its pink, purple, blue or grey no matter what their gender. I am not defining them because I put a newborn girl in pink or visa-versa. I find it helps me bond with the baby better and I can feel more organised. My sister is 4 weeks ahead of me and she isn't finding out. In comparison of preparations for our babies there is really no difference. I support her choice to wait til birth and she supports my choice to find out.

Your colleague probably wanted to share in your excitement for the baby, people love to be supportive and almost everyone loves a newborn. It's a hard line to walk with a colleague as you want to show that support and excitement but at the same time if they ask questions that are of a more personal nature then they can be seen as crossing a line.

[Cassius2]

I think that asking gender is one of those questions that people immediately jump to because it's an easy one to ask and let's them be involved without too much depth or prying. I personally think it's ok to ask, and perfectly ok to say you dont know and are waiting until they are born

The only thing I slightly disagree with you on is the notion that personality and role is determined by gender. I am not sure how knowing the gender of your baby influences that child's personality or role? That depends on the child themselves and how they are raised I reckon.

Finding out the gender of our girls never influenced our clothing choices or nursery colour...currently my little one is in a blue room with dragonfly wallpaper and it was not influenced by the fact that she is a girl...it just looks awesome lol

[luna moth]

I'm not a finder-outer, but I ask people f they know. I just find it interesting to find out whether they're finding out.

With my DD2, I found out by accident, and I felt so robbed! Fortunately I had 22 weeks to convince myself that I didn't *really* know and I just live having girls so I was chuffed anyway.