My Mum wasn't overseas, but when I had Olivia I was living in Darwin and she was in Adelaide. At first she wanted to come in the week after I had Olivia, but in the end I found the thought of her being there too stressful, so I asked her to come when Olivia was 3 months old!!

I know she would have helped round the house etc and no dount would have been a great support, but I ended up just wanting to get into a routine without any distractions. At the end of the day, I was the only one that could BF Olivia, regardless of support, and it was just easier, for me, to get on and do it all myself, plus DH was a huge help around the house.

Luckily, Mum understood, and delayed her trip till Olivia was 3 months, and it worked really well.