Can being upset harm my baby

[[M]umma[M]ia]

bub will be just fine. But u need to sort the issues out. A calm mum = a calm baby. big hugs darl and i hope things work out for u.

[AJC]

I think bub might be able to sense that you are upset but I don't think it can harm bub so please try not to stress too much about stressing (if that makes sense). I'm sending you a big hug and am not sure what is going on in your life but I really hope things settle down for you soon

[Indadhanu]

Hi hun,

I know how worried you must feel. I went through ALOT of stress and tears while pregnant for one reason or another.

It is really important to try not to get yourself too worked up. There were times when I was so upset and worried that I would get some pain and BHs. It didn't hurt bub, I think just my bodies way of saying 'hey, calm down, theres a baby in here remember', but it important to take notice of these. I dont think stress can hurt the baby, but I have heard that prolonged stress can cause early labour.

I dont want this to worry you even more though, because I went through some heavy ***** while pregnant and Jazz is just fine and came right on time! It's just a good reason to try and work out whats going on, and do whats best for you and bub. If you need to chat I'm on msn

[pollyanna]

Hi hun,
I hope things are a bit better for you at the moment.I have two children and am pregnant with number 3. This pregnancy being older and wiser i have done so much reading. With my first child i was happy and so is he aged 11;very happy go lucky and cheerful. 2nd child,miserable marriage,cried alot and as a result i believe second child is rebellious,clingy and very drama queen.
I have just finished reading on hypnobirthing and the process believes you do need to filter your thoughts, and everything you see and watch as it does impact upon the fetus. Some things of course are unavoidable and will upset you. but try and focus on the big picture. You and your beautiful healthy baby. I no longer watch the news or any ci programs on optus. and if anyone decides to share birth or child horror stories i just look at my watch and say"Woops-i have to go"and cut them short!
The other thing is sweety meditate and take yourself off to do things that nurture your soul. shop,smell flowers,walk barefoot in the garden or beach,play music,dance go for a swim. Nurture and love you and you are doing the very best you can for bubba.

[Heaven]

Just wanted to give you big Ali, I hope things improve!

[AliBaby]

Thanks so much girls.

I am starting to feel a lot better. My DP has been great and my little dogs have been giving me lots of cuddles. I think they can sense when you are not feeling right.

To put a long story short...this awful girl who is so jealous of my DP and me (she is obsessed with him) found out I was pregnant and she sent an awful message on facebook saying that "I hope you have an ugly retarded baby" and a lot more other nasty things. She has called me the most awful names that I can not even repeat and I could tolerate this but when she said that about our child I lost it. I don't know what I did to deserve this but I honestly think there is something not right in her head. I was so hurt that someone could wish something like that on someone that I was distraught. DP is furious with her for being so vicious and has given her a piece of his mind and I have contacted facebook to complain about her but I cant believe the stress that it has caused. DP wants to go to the police about her harrassing us but there isnt much they can do as she hasnt threatened us.

I am hoping things are going to sort themselves out and she leaves us alone but I suppose I have to realise that some things are out of my control. The only thing I can try and control is me and I want to do the best I can for my little one. If she wants to be childish (actually I dont even know a child that could be that mean) then that just shows people exactly what she is like.

I have been listening to lots of calm music and catching up on some of the missed sleep I have had. I am lucky that I am just starting 2 weeks holidays so I might take the time out to go for a walk down at the beach and do some calming things for the baby and me.

It is so nice to know that there are complete strangers that care and are so supportive. Thanks for all your tips on how to keep calm and keep baby stress free. We have our scan next week so I am hoping i will get to see that our little one is just fine in there.

[Visitor3]

Just wanted to give yu a big . Don't worry about the silly cow. She sounds awful, but really she has no impact on you with her stupidity. Ignore her and she will go away. Enjoy this time with your DP and puppies and before you know it she will have moved on. People like that are so fickle.

Take care xx

[Heaven]

Omg Ali, what a horrible person! She obviously doesn't have much else going on if she feels the need to interfere in your life so much.
If she is in your friends on facebook just delete her and put your profile on private. Then she shouldn't be able to send you msg's or anything. You are growing a beautiful healthy baby and have so much to look forward to!! Obviously she doesn't have the same.

[Nai]

AliBaby, I would definitely block this person on Facebook and make your privacy settings as tight as possible.

I think the hypnobirthing stuff would be good for you as it also teaches you how to use your breathing to relax and slow down your heart rate etc. I use it to help me get back to sleep at night when I wake up stressing about things.

Babies are very resilient to though - women give birth to healthy babies in all sorts of situations, going through famines, wars, terrorost attacks, floods - you name it. So don't stress too much about your bub, I'm sure everything will be fine!