Hi, I'm after some opinions, especially from Dads as I'd love to hear whether I'm being unreasonable or not from a males point of view....

DH & I have been unable to agree on who gets to cut the cord of our next baby. DH got to cut the cord with DD & I said I'd like to do it this time as its the lifeline between the baby & myself & is kind of special to me.

It would mean ALOT to me to be able to cut the cord.

DH says I'm being selfish because I get to "feel" the baby throughout the pregnancy when he only gets to feel little bits of movement from the outside.

I told him I cant help that, if he was able to carry the baby I'd let him as its not a walk in the park. (& I'd also be fair, if I carried first he could carry second) but thats impossible so its up to me to carry it if we want babies. I didnt make the rules.

I brought it up again tonight as I said to him it may be up to him to let the midwife know that I'll be the one cutting the cord as its usually Dads. He said he's not happy with that, I'm being "selfish".

I said I think I deserve to be able to do it this time after having such a hard pregnancy (HG sufferer along with other things) & he got to do it for DD.

Dads, what is your honest opinion? I think he's the one being selfish....

I already missed out on having a "support person" there with me as DH read the Harry Potter book through my last labour & was hardly any support at all, I had to call out to him just to hold my hand through a contraction even though he would have known I was coming up to one due to my heavy breathing but he decided to read instead. I almost felt like I was "putting him out" by asking him to leave his book & hold my hand.

So I said this time I'd love my mum to be there aswell as I'm HER baby & she's been through it all before so I know I wouldnt have to ask her to help she'd be by my side all the way.

He said no to that because its "his moment" because I've got to feel the baby inside me all pregnancy, when the babys born he has to be the first one to see it & hold it etc, anyone else there (besides midwives) takes his moment away from him.

This to me is selfish on his part aswell as I think I deserve to have all the support there I want to help me through the labour & make it as easy as possible for me as I'm the one doing ALL the work (All worth it of course but YKWIM)

So needless to say I'm feeling really peeved at the moment with DH. It's bad enough he doesnt help me around the house or with DD while I'm PG & wont be any help once the new baby arrives (unless other people are around, then he's father of the year) but to tell me whats going to happen when bubs decides to arrive really erks me!

Thanks in advance