sorry im not a dad but i really felt the urge to answer your post.

it is your birth, your body, your baby (even though he is the father)

You need a birth SUPPORT!!! Please hun for you sake get your mum in there with you!!!

You Dh needs to pull his head in, i think that having the right support with you (and i too am a mummy type of girl my mums was at my births) is vital in having the birth you want
He is def action 110% selfish, does he want to cut the cord cause its what dads do or does he want to do it cause it means something.

Personally i would tell him to bugger off, and wouldnt even let him in the room with that sort of attitude. You are the patient have have somplete say in what happens to you and who is with you during this time.

I am under the assumptiont that most dads are only there cause they think they are meant to be there or its the right thing, but omg i have heard some stories on how useless and unsuportive they are (my exH was a twat)


With regards to the cord thing, umm I never even thought about cutting it myself.. I was two busy holding my baby .. cause im pretyy sure it would be very awlward to hold bubs and cut at the same time and i wasnt putting her down at all!!!
But your reasoning is beautiful and i really hope for your sake you get to cut the cord becuase i have a feeling you will regret it if you dont.

My exH cut the cord with the first two girls only cause i basically told him he should, with my third baby i had my support partner do it and she was very honored.


any way i have no idea if i have asnwered the right thing got a bit carried away


BUT

Please Please Please get a support partner for you