Thanks for your advice. I'm trying to deal with it the best I can. Lots of tears but I think bubs knows cause everytime I get really upset I get a few reasuring kicks in the gut to remind me she's ok.
I just find it really hard when everyone keeps commenting that I'm not showing much yet and look really tired. I just want to scream at them, but instead I just have to explain things aren't going so well.
And then you get people, including my family, putting in their advice that wasn't asked for. One person even asked how much all the surgeries are going to cost us, seriously as if I care about costs right now or ever. Some people just dont think.
and hoping the rest of your pg is a good one. Hopefully the news is better than expected at 32 weeks. Focus on looking after yourself and that beautiful baby you are looking after inside of you. Unfortunately unsupportive and ignorant people are always around to give advice, smile and ignore them. It's good practice for when your baby is here!
Enjoy the beautiful time you are sharing with your baby girl right now as much as you can.
To add to it, maybe try doing some research when you are ready to find out exactly what everything means.
A lot of information is given in statistical form which doesn't help when YOU are the one facing everything so if you researched what everything is not only will it help you to better understand it in a round about way it helps you prepare mentally for what lies ahead.
I am so sorry you are facing such a difficult time,my advice is to just take each day as it comes, the good the bad and the down right devastating. There is no right or wrong reaction.
As for the people saying stuff - Unless you have been in a situation like this there is absolutely no way they can understand. It doesn't make hurtful comments better but from my experience telling myself that they are only saying things to try to help or to understand what I am going through can help a little.
People often don't know how to help and really its all they are trying to do you just have to bite your lip at the time then let out all your frustrations in here
Had another scan this week and more bad news the blood flow to the placenta is compromised. At the moment our little girl is still growing and the blood flow to her brain and vital organs seems to be okay, but the doctors seem unsure of exactly how long she will be okay for.
I'm only 24 weeks, and the doctors are talking about delivery if she starts to struggle.
Its just so scary, the chances of survival for an extremely preterm baby with significant growth restriction are not good.
For every day she is over the 24 week mark the better and yes while extreme preterm babies have low survival chances - there are ALWAYS those that go on and survive and do have quality lives.
Will be keeping everything crossed everyday counts hun so just hang in there and hope for the best.
It must be awful going through all of this. Just try to be as positive as you can and try not to stress about the unknown as you can't now what the outcome of all this will be and worrying about it will not improve things.
Remember that not everything they see on an ultrasound is accurate... I had both a DS scare & two weeks of stress about cord blood flow due to ultrasound results when in actual fact all was well.
A close friend of mine has just had twins at 35 weeks one of whom had IUGR and heart problems. they knew they were vey bad from 21 weeks pg but couldn't really tell until birth. She was born at 1.3kg and 32cm long but is a little fighter and is doing well in hospital. Her heart problems aren't as severe as they thought and despite being too small to operate on yet she is doing really well. Its been a tough 2 weeks and there has been some difficult times but things are currently looking up.
My friend found that "Heart Kids" were brilliant support.
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and hoping the rest of your pg is a good one. Hopefully the news is better than expected at 32 weeks. Focus on looking after yourself and that beautiful baby you are looking after inside of you. Unfortunately unsupportive and ignorant people are always around to give advice, smile and ignore them. It's good practice for when your baby is here! 
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