Hoobley, I aim every day to not cause harm - be it emotional or physical... It appears that I have caused you pain by my response to your post. I wanted to "speak" to you publicly as to me it's important for others to understand my stance.

I need to be honest - for it is not my responsibility to be dishonest in order to save your pain either. I feel your comments were insensitive because before we speak we need to think of who is hearing our words and how they will be processed. As a speaker that is our responsibility - hence my responsibility is to now be clearer about my response!

If you were responding to a post that was in regard to infertility and that eating pork increases the risk of infertility... In this thread women that were suffering infertility were replying. I came along and said: "well I'm growing increasingly tired of this post and I have suffered from infertility but I still ate pork and look I have a baby... It is my belief that some women just can't have babies..." ( I know your words were different - I am trying to paint the picture) How would that be heard?

Okay all of that would be true and valid - but would it be appropriate? I believe it would not.

Infertility is painful - women don't want it brought up that "some women just can't have babies"... When you are trying to keep the faith - for some women hearing that just sucks... Miscarriage and loss is painful - holding a dead baby in your arms is gut wrenching - having someone tell you "it's just not meant to be" sucks.

As you well know M & L is my "baby" - I protect my "cubs" with a passion - and the other night I responded quickly and swiftly and the way I couched my response clearly hurt you. I was propelled by my inbox, by the fact that I had just spent 2 hours with a woman who had just discovered her 16week old fetus was dead... So we all come from our own place when we respond - however I am responsible for my words and my intent wasn't to harm you. Rather it was to quickly and swiftly point out that your words were heard in a hurtful manner.

I think you B are a legend - I can think something you said was not okay without thinking you are not okay. Does that make sense? I will not and cannot agree with you always - or anyone. But, honestly stating my Truth I believe is important. However, clearly I should have been less quick to respond and kinder in my language.

How do I see the world? Well, I believe that we all come into this life from a past one (unless we are very unucky) and I think we have lessons, I think we have Karma attatched to our Being. I don't think someone is driving our car so to speak. I don't believe in God in the sense that religions do.. I actually do believe "that all is just how it should be". But that does not mean I have no control at all over my path. There are many roads to the end of our journey's - sometimes we choose the tough path and sometimes when we listen to our intuition and our Guidance we can make it a little easier. The lessons are the same - just how we learn them may be different. Had I listened to my intuition I would not have said Goodbye so many times...

There is an Arabic proverb that says something to the effect of: "Trust in Allah - but tie up your horse first"...

So, I hope that this explains myself to you - again you do not need to "reinstate" anything. I can disagree with you without disliking you. They are not the same thing!

So, Hoobley (and anyone else that felt my response was OT) thankyou for the lesson in waiting and not responding quickly! Thankyou for valuing me enough to take time to write to me. Thankyou for being the wonderful BB member of my Village that you are!

Merry Christmas to you Hoobs - and know I send you love and hugs across the waves...

ETA: Sam is right I am approachable!..