I'm a private rubber, but not for any particular reason it just feels private for me.

I agree with Briggsy that anything could set me off when I was having a bad day and LTTTC, just seeing a pregnant person could do it or even a new born. There was no way of someone predicting what could make me feel upset and there was nothing that the other person could have done even if the knew as nothing could change my situation or theirs. It wasn't about the other person it was totally about my own experience and emotions.