Thanks everyone for the advice and support, this is the first time I have ever been on a forum and it is so touching to see how many people care.
I have just been to the library and got 2 books:
'Birth Your Way' by Sheila Kitzinger
'Birth Right' by Susan Ross
They look great and I am looking forward to reading them with my DP, hopefully they will reassure him about the safety of homebirthing, will let u all know!