OK, i had a really long post but i lost it because my connection failed - so now i'll just summarise. basically my MIL gets very jealous about my relationship with my mother and my natural inclination to include her in things i would not want my MIL there for. now my MIL has 6 kids of her own, 3 of which are daughters and extremely close to her; so it is not like she doesn't have people who treat her like the centre of their universe (they really do). but she seems to expect me to treat her that way as well, and takes it as a personal attack that i might do things the way my mother did or would wish for my mothers support throughout pregnancy, birth, and most likely, even parenthood, from my own mum rather then her. i get along with my MIL, but we hold really different morals, ethics and world veiws - which mean we will never be as close as she seems to think we should be.

MIL took it very personally that i don't want her there at the birth, and was only placated after we told her my mother wouldn't be there either. if it were possible for my mother to attend however, is it so wrong that i should want her there and still not want my MIL?

anyway my question is, is it really so bad or unnatural if i do favour my own mother over that of my MIL? or should i be trying to include my MIL more, even if i really don't feel any desire too?

sorry, i was going to keep this post short - i hope it makes sense.