I am sorry that you are going through this atm.

I must be the odd one out coz my MIL is a gem. In the 10yrs that I've been with my DH we haven't had one cross word or moment.

However with that said I don't think I would want her at my baby's birth. Actually we offered once when I was pg with James & she declined saying she didn't think she would be able to cope with seeing me in pain. My mum on the other hand is down as coming in with us when this bubs is born. She was there for me when I had to deliver my 2nd son at 18w5d & there is no way I could have done it without her.

I think it is a personal choice & if I'm totally honest I think I would probably always choose my mum over my MIL, even though me & MIL get along really well.