OMG you have a Marie too

I get from my MIL, "Alexznader looks a bit cold", "Have you checked that his bottle's not too hot", "Baked beans for dinner again?" "Oh, he's not having a bath before bed tonight?" "Give granny that dummy you don't need one of those do you?" etc etc

It drives me mental. There is no way I would want her to be there for the birth of any of my babies. EVER. She only has 2 sons, so I think she will just miss out on seeing someone give birth. But really it's not my job (or yours) to fulfill that wish.

As for your questions, no way is it bad or unnatural to favour your own mother. If you don't want MIL more involved, don't involve her. We organised to see my PIL each Thursday night (tonight ) so they can get to know their grandson, but other than that we don't see them too often.