Hubby & I are definately going to find out the sex of bubs... but... then do we:
a) Find out the sex and try and keep it to ourselves
b) Find out the sex and tell everyone
c) Pretend we didnt find out, so its easier to keep the secret!
Hubby is more inclined to tell everyone
I sort of want it to be a suprise, but not sure if I can keep it a secret.
We told everyone. Though Clints parents didn't want to know they ended up finding out. It made it sooooooooooooooooo amazing once she was born, the things ppl gave her were amazing and we didn't have to buy her clothes for MONTHS
I also loved celebrating it with others and talking about it
If you aren't going to tell anybody then prob dont find out. If your anything like us we were wayyyy to excited to keep it in for all those months!
Congrats and I cant wait to find out!
some people will want to know, others won't (we have at least a couple of friends that have threatened physical violence if we spill!!)
our intention is to share with those that we told early about our pg - those that we can trust to keep it to themselves, but to have people to share with kwim? a couple of people that knew early on won't have a chance of finding out though - they couldn't keep their trap shut! we're doing the same nurery either way, so gender specific clothes is all we have to hide.. and given that so many of our friends have recently had bubbas or will be having bubbas just before us, if we're seen out shopping, we have excuses!
we told. I was desperate to know and my two DD's were too. and i couldnt expect them to keep it quiet for so long. and now that we know we refer to the baby as him/he so it would have been too hard to keep it quiet.
BUT we are keeping the name quiet... so that way at least there is some news to tell people when he arrives. We are also keeping quiet about the fact that he will be here earlier than anyone expects
i think if you fond out then you should tell - i had on e girl say to me" no we enjoy gloating about peoples guesses" put me right off- could not give a rats what her baby is now.
we told ( both sex and name)and found it really helped so when bubs came out it was like everybody already knew him - was really what we wanted. instead of a baby shower we had a "*** coming soon party" people gave us stuff with his name etc.
really up to the indivdual but nicer to share. JMHO.
LSK- I agree about ppl finding but not telling A lady I know said the same thing pretty much "we love knowing and not telling, ppl are dying to know!"
I said "Not anymore, Im excited but couldn't care enough to get worked up about the sex."
She made it sound like an attention thing, being pg is wonderful attention as it is.
With DS1, we found out and told our families and expected them not to spread it around, which they didn't. It was a bit hard to keep a secret since it was plain as day to see when they watched the video of the u/s.
As for DS2, we were unsure the lady gave us the right gender (she told us from a profile view. ) We decdied before we found out we could have 2 people each to tell and they couldn't tell anyone.
Good luck with your decision.
All the best with what you decide and aswell as the rest of your pg.
mamma kass- thank god i am not the only one. i felt like a cow writing that but at least i know we can share our cow- ness!!! loved your response!!
tenn- good solution!!
We found out and I originally wanted to keep it a secret but MIL really chucked a tanti and wanted to know so we told everyone. I must admit I don't think it would have been a secret for long as I started refering to the baby as a 'he' and 'him' so they would have found out anyway.
But as someone said before, we have so many clothes now that I doubt we will need to buy any for him for some time so thats one less thing to worry about.
I'm an all or nothing girl I think - either no one knows, including the mum&dad, or everyone who wants to know can know.
I think that the anticipation is good either way, regardless of whether you're waiting to find out, or waiting for the arrival of your son or daughter. The main advantage i see with telling is that you get gender specific clothes, and you can decorate your nursery in advance without having to worry about hiding the clues if you know what you're having but haven't told.
The people who treat it like a power thing are just weird IMHO - who gloats about people guessing wrong like that, that's just a bit pathetic. Maybe I'm just too out-of-touch with these things, but I've always thought a healthy arrival is more important than the flavour.
Good luck though, whatever you choose it's a very exciting time.
We found out but were given the "not 100% sure coz we can't see all the bits due to the cord" speech.
Not many people wanted to know and I got quite a few lectures espically from MIL for finding out.
As PIL didn't want to know we kept it from them but when I was in hospital I kept refering to bub as "she" and then after a week with me in hospital we had chosen her name and referred to "her" as Nikita or Niki so poor MIL found out anyway
I think you should wait and see - if people ask if you know say "yes we do" and leave it up to them to enquire further what the sex of your baby is. You can monitor their response and see if you actally want to share your news with them or not?!
We found out and told people. Although first we asked them if they wanted to know (everyone has wanted to know!) The surprise is going to be the name. We are not discussing or sharing that with anyone until he's here.
We found out but decided to keep it to ourselves - not to gloat to others but just to keep it as a special bond between us and the baby. Although we both have let the 'she' slip a couple of times, so beware of the difficulty of keeping it a secret if that's what you choose!
We found out both times and shared. It helped me to get used to having 2 girls by being able to refer to them both by name from 20 weeks. We will be finding out and sharing again. I cant wait for my scan!!
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Finding out the sex of the baby
A lady I know said the same thing pretty much "we love knowing and not telling, ppl are dying to know!"
) We decdied before we found out we could have 2 people each to tell and they couldn't tell anyone.
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