We have found out - I wasn't really bothered, by my husband wanted to know, so we found out. It hasn't really made any difference to our preparations, as we've got mostly gender neutral clothing anyway (only a couple of 'special coloured' outfits). As for the room decor, we both hate pastel colours. The walls are cream (we painted them when we moved in) and are staying that way. We've got bedding for the cot and the single bed in two colour schemes - one is white and green, the other is red and blue (the colours of our shared football team). So it's still non-gender specific even though we know!!! Perhaps something like that might work for you in preparing things......