We found out both times. You could see the dissapointment on DH face when the lady said girl, I did not press the issue with him, I gave him time to sort it out in his head, within a couple of weeks he had accepted it and was happy to know he would have 2 princesses to teach to ride motorbikes FIL on the otherhand, acted as if I was not even pregnant after we told him it was a girl. Once she was born though he came around. We have decided on having another baby one day and we have both decided to leave it as a surprise. I am unfased as to what we have, DH definately wants a boy so by waiting he says he will not care once he sees the baby.

DH cousin however, has a DS and found out she is pregnant with another boy. She does not even talk about her pregnancy, When a friend asked 'your having a boy right' she said 'yeah don't remind me'. They are already talking about going to Thailand next to do gender selection IVF. I am sad for this baby boy due in Nov, I really hope once he is born her emotions change. She went through so much in the beginning of the pregnancy with her NT results and having an amnio, I would think just that he is a healthy baby would be all that mattered, but that is just how I think.