Has anyone else felt incredibly alone during pregnancy??

[turtleschell]

I went through the exact same thing when I was pg! Then when she was born, suddenly I had heaps and heaps of new friends, from Mother's group, and just random people I'd known from years before that have had kids too and now we have something in common and become good friends (even when we weren't relaly friends at all before, eg people from highschool)
I have far more friends now than ever before, and my old friends from before DD are just old acquaintances now.
TBH, having DD is the best thing to ever happen to my social life.

[chepie]

oh big hugs hun xxxx I feel your pain.... I am the same!! My dh is away has been for over a week and its just me and the kids!! My bestie lives 3 hours away- so I speak to her on the phone - BUT THATS IT...... I have no one else to talk to, and I have tired but like you unless I am out partying I am not included and nor do they understand what it is like to have kids ....... Since moving to Canberra I have never ever felt so alone like I do now!! So I am hoping that we move soon!!

OOps sorry for the hijack ...... Big hugs xoxox

[Reet]

Thankyou so much girls xxxx

I think i will just sit tight for the next 6 months and enjoy just relaxing and not doing much else.. i will also be taking ur advice and joining a mothers group etc once baby comes cos i honestly cant see myself staying friends with anyone that im friends with now. And hey why force friendships just so i can have 'friends' now! Its silly. Thankyou girls for helping me to realise this
Am feeling better today.. i think i was a bit hormonal.. i'd already had a cry earlier yesterday cos dh was going away.. i think it was just an emotional day!

A big thankyou once again!!! xxx

ps Chepie- Is there any playgroups/mothers groups in ur area u cld join??

[~Hestia~]

Glad you're feeling better. And yes - join mothers groups, play groups, swimming lessons etc as there are potential new friends all over the place just waiting for you.

[chepie]

Reet - glad you are feeling better babe xxx Yes I too need to pulll my finger out and join a group!!! I noticed that you are in FNQLD - we are hoping to make a move to Cairns - if you are near there we can hang out !!!

[Reet]

I live in Cairns.. so yes let me know! We can be loners together! haha

[MrsBexie]

I totally understand this feeling!!

We moved 8 weeks ago to toowoomba where I don't know anyone except one other army wife. I feel so lonely and realised I have no one but DH, but at the same time I cannot be bothered going out and trying to make friends.
When we do socialize with the other guys DH works with (who moved from wagga as well so I'm friends with them) I don't want to go anymore! I just want to stay home with dh, I don't want to share him.

So yes I feel incredibly lonely and also know it's mainly my fault, but being pregnat is hard when you are the only one! Maybe try to get into prenatal yoga (I start next week) or aqua aerobics where you will meet other pg women.

Keep your chin up!

[MrsBexie]

oh big hugs hun xxxx I feel your pain.... I am the same!! My dh is away has been for over a week and its just me and the kids!! My bestie lives 3 hours away- so I speak to her on the phone - BUT THATS IT...... I have no one else to talk to, and I have tired but like you unless I am out partying I am not included and nor do they understand what it is like to have kids ....... Since moving to Canberra I have never ever felt so alone like I do now!! So I am hoping that we move soon!!

OOps sorry for the hijack ...... Big hugs xoxox

I was from Canberra so when I am there next week I could ask around about groups for you if you like? I know heaps of families and young people with kids.

[Reet]

Oh msbexie thats a good idea.. prenatal yoga! i hadnt thought of that. I might book myself into one. Even if i dont make friends atleast ill be out there doing something.

My dh is a bit of a homebody too like me.. so we are both as bad as eachother.. atleast urs goes and sees mates! I think mine is starting to get frustrated with me tho cos i wont do anything.. like even go to the movies (how slack am i!) hopefully once i have hit the 2nd trimester i get a bit more energy.. right now i just dont have any motivation. Its also hard tho cos my dh works away 3 weeks and home for only 1.. so i get too used to my own company over those 3 weeks and then wen hes home i also dont want to share him with anyone!

Let me know how ur yoga class goes! I might wait til i start showing a bit and then book in to one.. i will probably feel silly otherwise being with all other pregnant looking ladies and me just looking normal.

x

[Yarrawin]

I hear you, Reet. I really do.

I had a mc in September last year and after that I basically became a hermit. Not long after my mc my DH had to go to England for a week or two and two days before he left I lost my job, and I honestly don't think I left the house for more than 5 mins at a time during the whole time he was away.

I lost touch with everyone, and not knowing many people in Melbourne to start with that was really hard! My friends did try to reconnect for a while but I was just not ready emotionally.

Now I'm pregnant and that isn't a stage of life that any of our friends are at. I have reconnected with them in a sense, but I've found I don't have anything in common with them and I prefer to just spend time with my DH, or even alone, which I've always hated. My life is being at home and two mornings a week at uni, and even at uni I have lost touch with the friends I made... I just feel so disconnected.

That said, I'm also strangely content if that makes sense?!

Don't beat yourself up about not wanting to do anything. I was like that until probably 16 or 17 weeks when I started feeling better and its different for everyone! We do go out and do more now, but I've become very much a homebody and even though I have times where I feel lonely and disconnected I'm also okay with it