I think your midwife is finally giving you the extra care that you should have been given earlier. You have experienced many losses, and it sounds like these were not properly recognised or given proper attention.
This pregnancy sounds like it is going great. As long as you are happy with the extra monitoring, i would go along with the midwife's recommendation.
Not sure which parts of the forum you post in, but you might find some support from women who have 'been there done that', in Pregnancy after Miscarriage or loss section.
I think one of the hardest things to cope with was for so long every medical professional I have seen has been so blase about my losses, so that I had become *it's just one of those things*... Then suddenly someone was appalled and making them sound like this super serious issue - that it was a big shock emotionally..
Bec, I'm really sorry I feel so thoughtless I didn't realise you had so many m/c's
I can understand why the hospital has put you high risk now, but they should have explained what it means and why, ect.
For me, being high risk, means more appts and also more tests to see whats going on. They want to see if an infection is causing my troubles or whether it's just one of those things.
There are some things that your GP could probably do, if you want you could ask about doing shared care so you aren't travelling to the hospital all the time.
Bec, I had no idea you'd had so many m/c either!! I'm astounded!! Maybe this mw is finally giving you the care you needed to begin with!
You're 18 weeks now and in the "no worries" second trimester. I know that doesn't guarantee anything, but you're certainly a long way down the road now!!
See because everyone had been so blase about the losses, I just shrugged it off as no big deal. I would grieve silently and deal with it on my own...
So to hear you both astounded at my history makes me surprised because for so long, it's just been like a "sinus issue"...
I am glad someone is taking it seriously but for me it's going to take a while to accept it is a big thing...
i agree with the others who've said that it sounds like finally someone is taking the time to care as much as they should about your losses, albeit in a way that means you have to almost deal with them all over again.
i think what i find hard to deal with is medical professionals who seem to have no idea of the impact of what they say - something to them that might be a throwaway line/something totally normal to say can send us into a panic.
with your bmi - when i was referred to monash because of my bmi, i felt like i was the worst mother in the world & i was only 11 weeks pg! i felt like i had failed before i had even started so you're definitely not alone! but so far no one at monash has weighed me, let alone mentioned my weight/bmi so i'm sad to hear someone gave you a hard time. one of my friends went to monash & she had great midwives except for one - so maybe it's the same one
Sloane - Thank You. SO much. That is how I have been feeling about my BMI...
Hehehehe - maybe it is the same one!
I think if it is mentioned again next week I will say something about how it is making me feel...
It is like having to go through it all again. But in a much bigger way - I don't know that I can explain it but it's so raw...
Thank you again...
Evie - I do have my DS and I do want to make sure I have my new bundle so I am glad to get the care. Still a little overwhelming - I'm still in the headspace of being normal! I guess I just have to come to grips that this is normal for me...
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I didn't realise you had so many m/c's 
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