bec - so sorry to hear about your losses.

i agree with the others who've said that it sounds like finally someone is taking the time to care as much as they should about your losses, albeit in a way that means you have to almost deal with them all over again.

i think what i find hard to deal with is medical professionals who seem to have no idea of the impact of what they say - something to them that might be a throwaway line/something totally normal to say can send us into a panic.

with your bmi - when i was referred to monash because of my bmi, i felt like i was the worst mother in the world & i was only 11 weeks pg! i felt like i had failed before i had even started so you're definitely not alone! but so far no one at monash has weighed me, let alone mentioned my weight/bmi so i'm sad to hear someone gave you a hard time. one of my friends went to monash & she had great midwives except for one - so maybe it's the same one