Two pg, one was a late loss at 21 weeks, DS1, and the other an earth side bub, DS2.
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Two pg, one was a late loss at 21 weeks, DS1, and the other an earth side bub, DS2.
9 pregnancies...
I've lost 7 but I'm blessed to have 2 earthside bubs.
ive been pregnant 4 times and have 2 living children.
2 Pregnancies and 2 baby girls.
2pregnancies and two little girls
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7 pregnancies - 2 children. 4 miscarriages and one still born. I have a tattoo on my wrist that represents them all <3
3 pregnancies and 3 beautiful children.
I know I'm lucky.
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Three pregnancies. One beautiful daughter.
Then there are the six fertilised embryos that I have had transferred into me this year that DP and I created out of love and an overwhelmingly huge desire to have a child together. I guess they don't really count to anyone else but they do to me.
Yes N2L, they count :grouphug:.:
They definitely do count :hug::
They will always count to you hun - and that's what matters. don't let anyone else tell you if they should or shouldn't count - what you feel in your heart is all that matters.:
i don't count our unsuccessful embryo's when discussing pregnancy and loss - but i very much count them for me. when i get the ink on my back updated for our angel babies, there will be something symbolic (probably small stars) for the four embryo's that didn't take
4 pregnancies and 2 beautiful baby girls :)
8 times
1 ectopic
4 m/c 6-10week gestaions
1 s/b @ 21 weeks due to anencephaly
2 healthy happy boys
It gets counted. My mum lost my twin at 10-12 weeks. She had lost another baby 12 months before at the same gestation so she rushed to the hospital to see if anything could be done. It was then that they did a u/s & found me waving. And yes it was a definite loss as my mum remembers holding my twin in her hands after it was lost.:
She had 6 babies out of 7 pregnancies but at least 2 of the pregnancies were twins. Some were lost due to the Rhesus factor.
Myself I've had 3 babies out of 4 pregnancies, #3 was prem. The last was an early mc & I'm pretty sure it was twins. (they run in my family).
i feel very blessed to have never experienced a loss. 2 pregnancies 2 girls.
Keike it's ok. The loss of a baby is still a loss no matter when it happens.:
I have friends who have had early loss, late loss, stillborn, SIDS, the list goes on..... Those little ones were your babies you loved & wanted them.
I recently (sep/oct) lost twins very early on & I do feel it although I haven't told many people as some just don't understand. Some would even question how I knew that it was twins (as it was too early to u/s) but having had 3 babies previously I knew, & I felt like I knew my twins too.
My Mum was the one that taught me that early miscarriage is still loss and we are allowed to grieve for those loved ones. Whenever my Mum would hear that a friend had lost a baby she would head straight over just to be there so that the mum could talk with someone who understood.
ive been extremely blessed with 3 pregnancy and 3 beautiful children
hopefully this doesn't offend anyone. If it does I'm sincerely sorry.
1 live baby,
1 possible early loss while TTC DS - I'll never know for sure as it didn't occur to me until after DS was born, that may have been what it was.
how do you grieve someone you're not sure existed? I feel like I don't have the right, or that I have the ability to grieve it. I didn't have hopes for it, I didn't bond with it. I didn't know s/he may have existed until DS was 6 months old.
How does someone move past something like that? I feel like I'm stuck in limbo.
3 pregnancies, 1 MC at 9 weeks and 2 little princesses :)
I understand how you feel. You have the right to grieve, if you want to. I sometimes ask the universe "why?" just to get in off my chest. And other times when the subject comes up I pick up my DS2 & give him the biggest hug, & just let myself be thankful for him (we nearly lost him at birth, spontaneous labour at 33weeks) so maybe when you don't know how to feel about that pos early mc cuddle you little guy & tell him how much your glad he's here.:
Sometimes it's the only thing that keeps me from breaking down.
I hope this helps?
3 pregnancies, 4 babies, 2 live births. Miscarried twins at 9wks.
I have been pregnant twice. The first pregnancy resulting in the birth of charming Master Z, The second one is still in progress, I'm almost 25 weeks...with my fingers tightly crossed for the safe arrival of DS2. xx
6 pregnancies
4 beautiful children
1 ruptured ectopic 9weeks3days
1 mc 12weeks
A loss is a loss I would never judge someone on their pain but whilst I didn't think I could survive the pain of my first loss. I just know I don't have the strength to birth a child, hold my baby and walk away empty handed.
*****hugest apologies for commenting on something I really have no idea about*******
The pain in this thread, I feel physically sick. So sad
My mum had 8 pregnancies for two children. One loss was 23 weeks.
My MIL had three live children(twins) one stillborn, one 25weeks and a few mc. How horrid.
Twice! One out and one currently baking! :happydance:
How do you know? How does anyone know until that's what happens? Who says it's strength that keeps you going anyway?:
Btw, I'm not having a go, I'm just in a very bad space atm and the whole "strength" thing gets to me. Like I must be strong to survive this. Normal women wouldnt. Therefore I mustn't be normal or something. Maybe I dont love my babies enough or why else can I get up each day and keep going. I've had people say to my face, I couldnt survive what you've been through. Why not? How do they know? What makes me so frigging special that I have to be "strong"? Is that why my babies died? Because I'm strong and therefore can cope better than a "weaker" woman?
What if I'm not strong enough today? Surely I should be "better" by now. If I'm not strong enough there must be something wrong with me. Please be strong and hide the pain, we dont want to see it, hear it. Be strong because we feel helpless.
It's not like any of us whose children die are given a choice when it comes to surviving. Or at least not a choice I'm prepared to take.
The love and pride of those beautiful babies sustain me when I have no strength left. Friends and family prop me up when I can't stand. Hope and love keep me going when I'd rather just stop breathing. The pain never, ever ends.
Neither does the love and that's what I'm desperately clinging to. Is that strength? Or just sheer bloody mindedness that this will not break me, no matter how brittle I feel?What happens if I do break? Is that because I'm not strong enough?
Sorry for the OTT rant. The whole idea just really gets to me.
Holy f&@k......
And I guess that's why one shouldn't say a thing when one does not have a bloody clue what they are talking about.
I appreciate the raw honesty of your post and would delete my comments but then no one would understand where your post came from.
I'd say more but that would be making it about 'me'.
My most humblest apologies for saying anything that upset you tash.
Double post
I think Tegam understands that - hence why she posted and apologised, *LittleMissSummer*. Think perhaps you have misunderstood.
:hug: Tash.
Oh gee I'm digging an even bigger whole. I really mean well I promise.
I didn't mean anything bad.
At all.
I was in shock I'd hurt her so much. Did it hurt to read? Yes because her honesty gave me a window into her pain! I said something dumb but did I feel she was calling me dumb? No way.
I have re read what I wrote and I don't think it should have been taken the way you thought but I can't change that.
I said I was very sorry I said I didn't want to make it about me.
What should I have said? Or not said?
Why wasn't that post necessary? Tegam felt bad about what she had said and was apologising. I think a lot of us have said the same as Tegam in one way or another and I want to thank L & B for helping us all to think a bit more before we speak and to be more sensitive.
Tegam's post was completely genuine and she is devastated that she hurt anyone.
Tegam I totally understood what you were saying. I think you should be commended for your reaction. Very humble and loving.
Totally agree with that.:
And do I think tash should have or needed to apologies, hell no. I don't think she owes me any explanation.
And the more I think about it the more I learn. I have never thought how words like strong, brave, respect.,., come with such hidden responsibility.
Being part of this forum teaches me to consider things from others point of view. I know that IRL so many people don't want to talk about these things and I want to be there for people I know. And I want to learn how not to put my foot in my mouth.
Thanks Guys for taking it the right way.
I feel as tho it's been my turn to feel the BB ***** slap today. Probably being over sensitive but am bowing out of this thread now and I think I'll take a bit of a break from BB. I really just never would want to cause someone any more pain.
I got your post tegam, as an op said, very humble and also very genuine. Xx
L&b thankyou for such an honest post, I think many of us have learnt a lot from that Xx
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My shoes are very comfortable when I put them on. They fit me exactly how I need them to and sometimes I forget I am even wearing them...Why? Because they are my shoes. No one else has walked in them so I know exactly how they feel.
If someone else wore them they might get blisters.
Get what I mean??
ETA: sorry, just read that over and it sounds like I am on drugs (Apple is thin anyone?) what I was trying to say is let's not get hung up on who meant what. If the posters in question have an issue with each other, or anyone else, I am sure they can sort it out themselves or report the post.
I just wanna thank L&B for such a moving post that really opened my eyes. You may not feel that you are strong, or hate the word, but gee you are an amazing member of these forums.
And I also want thank Tegam for your response. I don't think L&B was asking for any kind of apology, but your response was lovely.
That is all ;)
Naw. I'm feeling the love. This is what I love about forums (and I don't mean to belittle the situation... I'm worried my typed word is going to fail atm.). But the thing is I think in these situations it's always nice to see two people talk it out. And I think that's happened here, quite respectfully actually. And it's nice to see no lynching going on either. Misunderstandings happen, feelings get hurt unintentionally. This happens here and in life. It's what you do with that, that counts. So don't feel you are being attacked Tegam. I think you handled yourself well, and honestly, and no apologies from you either L&B. Everyone is entitled to their feelings, and this is one of those threads where everyone is going to feel different. And that is ok. Doesn't mean anyone's feelings aren't valid. Just different. :grouphug:
:crying::
Why did I go back and look this up?
:hug: op :(
Sigh, sorry to derail the discussion...