I am so disappointed

[My Three Sons]

Oh i am so sorry to hear your hopes for a little princess have been dashed. I can't imagine what you are going though now after hearing it is a girl, and them now telling you it is a boy.
I hoped so much that my 3rd little bubba was going to be a girl. But i guess thankfully i found out he was a boy at 20 weeks, so it gave me a long time to process it. certainly look at joining the gender disappointment forum. I am sure you will find a lot of support there from women who have been in a similar situation to yours.

Hugs again!

[e_p]

All-boys - so sorry to hear about your news I haven't had babies of my own yet but when I visualise my family all I see is daughters - I have a lot of fear about how I will respond if I have little boys so I can understand where you're coming from - especially after all of the preparation you have been doing. Sending lots of love your way xoxo

[jackrose]

There is not much I can say without sounding cliche, but I want you to know I am thinking of you.
x

[Arimeh]

I understand completely. I thought DD2 was a boy. Of course we are all happy she is healthy and everything - but I really wanted another boy

And that was my last pregnancy too

ETA - did you need some boy stuff? I can send you some boy stuff if you like

[AwesomeFoursome]

It must be a big shock. I just want to give you a hug . Are they 100% sure its a boy?

[Feijoa Mum]

I guess nothing is 100% as I well now know.
At first he said he wasnt sure but could see something but then he said he was pretty sure it was a penis and testes. It was more likely to be boy than a girl

I have ebayed all my boys clothes to buy pink stuff because as you can imagine I was over the blue I wanted head to toe pink! Havent kept receipts from the stuff I have bought new and I have removed tags and washed them anyway.
DH says not to worry we can get more stuff but it upsets me that I have so much now redundant clothes and not even an outfit for a little boy. I wanted to get started on the hospital bags this week but now I have nothing to put in the babies except two white singlets!
It just sucks! Its so unfair!

[~Trish~]

It doesn't sound like he was 100% convinced it is a boy? Are you able to get him to do another scan just to be sure?

More hugs .

[Tanya]

I am so so sorry... GD is not very easy for those who haven't been through it to understand how it feels (as some of the responses are testament to) ... Your feelings are valid and even if you had been told a boy to begin with I am sure it would still have been somewhat disappointing.

I am sure you will love this little boy just as you do the others and I completely understand the loss you are feeling right now.

xx

[BekZ]

I hun I totally get you!!! I bet you are blessed with such a beautiful boy though.

[Feijoa Mum]

No I dont Tanya, unfortunately he only printed out the ones of the face, kidneys etc. I pulled them out as soon as I got home so I could scrutinise them myself but there is none there to scrutinise.
I think it must be sinking in a bit more today because I am feeling very flat and upset about.
Its taken all the excitment I felt about having this baby soon away too. I just went to the supermarket and they have huggies on special. I started crying again just looking at the pink boxes of nappies!

[Cherished]

Hon I am in shock for you and as I read you post I said out loud "oh now, how devastating" and my dh asked what was wrong and I told him big hugs from both of us. We don't have any bubs yet but we do know how much we want at least one of each gender, I can't imagine how uspset you are right now I understand you feeling like you have lost your little girl, is there any chance next time (if you choose a next time) you can get IVF or something to insure a girl? I know that might sound a little cold and I dont' know if you can even choose gender with IVF but I am just offering some light for you.

[briggsy's girl]

All boys - i am really sorry you're going through this - i have been following your journey from finding out you had a girl, to the disappointment of a boy and now i see you're in limbo - that must be so very difficult for you. as much as the sentiment of "as long as it's healthy" is a lovely one to have, when you are given something then have it taken away it must make thinking like that all the harder. will be looking forward to your BA in the coming weeks

I understand you feeling like you have lost your little girl, is there any chance next time (if you choose a next time) you can get IVF or something to insure a girl? I know that might sound a little cold and I dont' know if you can even choose gender with IVF but I am just offering some light for you.

i just want to comment on this for anyone else reading - it's not possible to gender select with IVF unless there is a gender related genetic issue that you are trying to overcome - and even then it's not 100% guaranteed. IVF just can't be used for that purpose sorry

[Jahzara]

Oh - i am so sorry

This is a big fear of mine as DH and i have decided to go for number four -again- as after my recent miscarriages i still dont feel complete. I want another baby regardless, so we are going to give it another try - but i worry that i will be told its another boy. I was devastated when i found out DS#3 was another boy. I feel so selfish for thinking that cause i truely am grateful but i have a deep longing for a daughter !

I dont blame you at all for feeling the way you do !



Take time to process your feelings

xoxoxo