Stacey, big hugs! What you're going through is a form of grief. There's nothing easy about grief. You get through this any way you can, but be gentle on yourself. You don't have to feel grateful that bubs is healthy or anything you think you "should" feel. You feel exactly what you feel - disappointment, loss, whatever. We know that at the end of the day, you're going to love your baby - that's a given, so between now & when you do fall in love with your baby, look after you, feel what you feel & share the grief with your DH - he's probably feeling it too.
A friend of mine was told boy up until her 4d scan at 37 weeks and they said it was a girl but guess what it came out a little boy so why not double check it again?? You never ever know!!
I am so sorry, I can imagine the feels of loss you were having. I thought ds2 was a girl and felt a little bit of that sense of loss when he was a boy because i felt like there was really a little girl in there.
I don't want to give a false sense of hope but 2 out of 3 of your scans have said girl and it does sound like your sonographer was not completely sure, so I too think you should have another scan, I know you are saying you don't want to have false hope but if you are having a girl it would be a waste to buy new boys things, and if you are having a boy maybe another scan would help to bond with your baby as a boy, seeing as you might be in less shock at the time?
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