we didn't find out- and i am so so glad we didn't. it made the labour and last stages of pg so exciting. i'll never forget the moment i looked down at my baby and saw he was a little boy. after hours of pain, it was one of the best moments of my life. if you can convince your dh to hold out, do it. in my opinion, it makes the reward at the end a little sweeter...our family and friends really loved the surprise as well. they were all hanging on our text message.