More then just a "nevous first time dad"

[*Efjay*]

Thank you for all the replies girls.

Dh has seen a psychologist before. It was however a good 10 years ago. This was when he first learnt of his disorder as it had gotten so out of hand it was ruling his life. But once he had it recognised & got help with dealing with it, he realised he had been suffering all his life, his earliest memory of an anxiety attack was when he was only 8 yrs old. It runs in his family also but was only discussed when DH told his parents about his suffering. Then it comes out that his Dad is the same, so his uncle & the list goes on! Unfortantly we are also seeing the signs in Evan already but are confident he wont suffer like DH did as we will help him & not push it aside like DH's family did. But anyway thats another post!

I think he will benefit from speaking with someone again. He got a lot from it the first time he had sessions 10yrs ago. Back then our hurdle was paying for it, now its finding the time. He works 6 days a week. But I think he needs to put himself first a little & arrange times he can leave early or start late etc.

Its the pregnancy at the moment because thats an easy thing for the anxiety to play on. But if I wasn't pregnant it would be something else. He & I could both see it starting again before I was pregnant.

It isn't ruling his life yet but I think its heading that way. I know he is run down with work but over the last week or so, he seems a little depressed also. Like yesterday when I called to tell him the sex of the baby, he sort of just said "Oh ok" . when I asked why the not so excited reply he just said he didn't know what I was on about. I know he is tired & tired of riding in the wet to work. His job is a little dull at the moment so I know his days a pretty boreing also.

hmmm I know the pregnancy isn't the cause of this. I also know if we get his focus off the pregnancy the anxiety will just pick something else.

hmmmm i think I will need to have a good chat with im tonight.

eta - cognitive behavioural therapy I'm prettue sure he has done this back when when he first got help... I will ask him

[Mumma2three]

Just coming from an anxiety disorder background, I have discovered something that I think I've been looking for for the last 17 years (since my anxiety started). A keneisiologist. I haven't had sessions yet but the Dr is sure she can help me. My daughter is also seeing her for allergies, but the connection that she deals with between mind and body is truly amazing and I can't wait to begin.
I know how frustrating anxiety is and those thoughts that are ridiculous but you just can't keep them away. Maybe if you see if there's a keneisiologist in your area.
Good luck,xoxo

[Willow]

FJ - if it helps, the place I went in Penrith does evening and Saturday appts.

[*Efjay*]

FJ - if it helps, the place I went in Penrith does evening and Saturday appts.

Thanks Willow, I will talk to DH tonight & see how he feels about seeking some professional support.

Web, I will suss out this keneisiologist stuff thanks.

Someone mentioned a men's centre in the blue Mts, thank you but I am on the hawkesbury side so its a bit out of the way.

[DiannaQ]

How about a Naturopath?? - I have personally been down this long, winding and overwhelming road and swear the only thing that worked was natural therapies - not addictive and I felt great in a short period of time - if he can get his hands on some SAME (from health food store) this will help until he sees someone who can do a full analysis - this stuff is amazing to the point where I even have books on the product - it is used alot in Europe and I believe that in Italy they recommend this over any other anti-depresents - anything is worth a go - hope he starts to feel better real soon

[Mumma2three]

You could also get some Rescue Remedy for immediate use. CAn help (never helped my degree of anxiety, but I know it helps alot of people).x ox

[*Efjay*]

Funny enough Dh use to use that as well as one I made up from teh other bach flowers that was more taylored to what his needs where. I may need to track down what I was using Ithink.
Thanks for the reminder!