i dont want to go to either, i want to stay where i was comfy, i feel like crap cause i am overweight, i feel like crap cause i cant birth where i want and i feel like crap cause my husband isnt being supportive!

So fight it.
Problem solved.
Lose some weight, which you can do safely while pregnant, and get that 1 BMI point back if you have too.
But fight it. And remove the problem. AND you will birth where you want to.

(Sorry can't be more tactful, on my phone lol )