Well what sort of an apology is that!? Just forget about what he is up to. As for buying a second car on the Baby bonus, why does he need two, you can only drive one at a time, and the $5000 is paid fortnightly.

I would say why not just investigate Home birth as an option as they others have suggested, and I would just ignore your hubby and keep putting yourself first, after all you have another little person on board there at the moment.

Just take one step at a time, call the complaints person at Redlands, or write. Explain more about your personal situation as well, and say you really need their help. They should then get on board with assisting you. I know at the RBWH they said to call them for ANYTHING, including seeing a social worker about my relationship and that they would organise one to mediate between my partner and I, as he has OCD issues.