Is this a normal part of pregnancy?

[Linzy]

Some of the things mentioned here make me wonder about antenatal depression - maybe it's worth a google?

I agree, some of the phrases and thoughts you have used or are feeling sound more like depression. I have had this on and off for ten years. This second pregnancy I am struggling with it a little as I can't go back on my anti depressants due to not enough research on fetal damage. One thing that works for me is getting out of the house, maybe a nice walk with the little one, visiting a friend for a cuppa, getting into a new hobbie like um scrapbooking or cross stitch? Anything to get your mind of feeling guilty and depressed.

I've been working alot more (now that my m/s has calmed down) as being in the house tends to make it worse as you can start associating the house with negative thoughts creating a vicious circle. I'm about to look into swimming classes for pregnant women to get me out there enjoying things, and being more social which also helps take your mind off things

I hope you feel a little better soon! And I'm sure it will pass once your hormones balance out, if not I'd definetly head of to the docs and have a chat about how your feeling. *huggies*

[HollyC]

I think it is normal to feel tired and mopey during pregnancy. I think I probably did the first time, but I was at work and that made a big difference. Being home with a toddler means that you don't have to shower and get dressed, sometimes you just mope around in your pjs. And rather than taking a break when you are tired you do something easy like put the kids in front of the tv.

First pregnancy I let a lot slide. I'm not sure what DH ate or where he found clean clothes, I was asleep or lying on the couch. Now I'm trying to still do everything, but I can't and I feel bad that DD is the one who suffers.

I took DD to the library this morning and out for lunch and it felt really nice to do something for her.

[Emma1979]

thanks for your replies i am glad i am not alone feeling like this...

its funny, today we had quite a good day, we were up and dressed and out of the house and at mothers group, and i had some delicious home made pizza while the kids played etc, then home and we both had a sleep in my bed in the afternoon then a bit of tele after that.... yeah maybe i do have to get out and about more, its funny i was just thinking today i would take dd to the library and read her some books etc one morning, i am sure she would love it.

dd had tonsillitis, then croup, then i got tonsillitis then ear infections so we have both been sick and couped up in the house, maybe i was expecting too much as i had been sick for a good two weeks and perhaps just needed to give myself some downtime to get over it. dd has become ultra clingy which is also meaning i get zero alone time, where as in the past i would often get a day to myself, or an evening if she stayed at my parents place... i suppose its a multitude of things affecting me.

thanks again for your replies.