I had a blessing way with both of mine, and for both I was unsure of organizing it, because I felt a bit...I don't know...selfish? ?BUT they are both very, very very special memories for me, and I felt truly amazing afterwards.

One way to help this feeling is to get someone else to organize it for you, so you don't feel you're drawing attention to yourself too much.

My blessingway with dd was a little bit baby shower because my friends couldn't quite get the whole idea, but with ds they had a better idea and we got a henna tattoo artist who decorated my tummy and did a tattoo for all the guests (most got their hand done). I also asked everyone to bring a bead to create a birthing necklace and a scrap of fabric to make flags (a bunting). Even if you don't ask for blessings or anything, I strongly urge you to get beads from your friends to make a necklace...my birthing necklaces are so so special to me and I will give them to my children when they're older. I wore them each during the birth and for a week or so afterwards...they really do help you remember all the people who are thinking of you.

My album also has pictures of the birth alter I created, which has affirmations and a candle. I lit the candle on the day I went into labour and it burned each night in ds first week...

I am very spiritual when it comes to birth. I think ceremonising it really helps me get into the zone.