Keike - My SIL had a Welcome Baby party personally there is not a hope in hell I could manage one of those especially in the first month I honestly didn't know how she did it, afterwards she admitted to me that she wished she had have had it before the baby arrived but it got all the "appeasing everyone else" thing over and done with in one hit.

I partially feel guilty if I don't "do something" for this pregnancy, I want to, I would want a Mothers circle (blessingway) as opposed to a baby shower ....... but there is a part of me screaming "WHY?? I CANNOT BE BOTHERED" especially as it would need to be held in a 4 week period when there is SO much other stuff going on and I am not sure my head could cope with something else as well ITMS.

I was also seening what other women did in regards to pregnancies following on from their 1st born, if others did something to mark each pregnancy etc ......

I am just torn and want someone else to make the decision for me