(And by unplanned, I mean, unplanned, not unwanted!!!! )
Well.... I am pregnant. With number 7. We will be a family of 9.
Oh CRAP.
It took a long time to come to terms with having no more babies, but we got there. I have given away all baby clothes, all maternity clothes and all newborn nappies. We were THAT sure. We have a referal to the surgeon for Adam to get the snip. Harmony is now sleeping through and we just moved all the bedrooms in the house around, so we had no babies in our room, and the kids all had their own room except for J and Z, who are sharing the big 2nd loungeroom, and we turned the big double garage into a massive kids play/tele room. We were all settled. We made our 5 bedder into a 6, the kids are getting older, and I was SOOO ready to move on. I am so close to Harmony it is very hard to explain. People that see us together understand. We are like one person, and are extemely attatched to each other, and I was glad she would be my last.
Well, my second last I guess.
I am happy, I am.
But its hard to adjust to. I keep forgetting I'm pregnant. It's my birthday this Friday, so no drinks for me. We have an engagement party on Sat, no drinks for me. Pregnant again for christmas, New year, and I cant make the Qld meet now...... A girlfriend is getting married just after bub is due, so I'll be fat still. I know none of those things really matter, but I was really looking forward to them, and getting myself back.
Ad still hasn't got fulltime work, he is doing small jobs that suck, (like cleaning sewers at the abbitoirs ) so we literally dont starve. Bad bad timing bub!!!!
The worst is my sis is trying IVF again soon. She has just one frosty left in Sydney, and it wasn't the best when they froze it. I feel so so so bad. Announcing another pregnancy just seems so cruel. I know she will be ok, she loves all my babies, its the pregnancy she finds hard. Once they are here she's a lot better. But I have 8 months of hell to put her through if her bub doesn't turn out. I feel like a monster. A fertile one.
All this from one little slip, one that was 4-5 days away from O, so not too much to worry about. So I thought. I keep looking at the stick, and I swear its still getting darker...
I cant to get to my doc for 2 weeks, so I am on Megafolate, 5g, to help with the possability of clefting. Which is another little concern. We were willing to risk it for one more, hadn't planned on risking it again. Although I do know the odds are in our favour.
I hope its not coming across ungrateful, beacuase I do feel extremly blessed. I love my big family. My kids are just awesome. And this little bubba will be so loved by all the family..... the kids will welcome another one with open arms, they are great kids.
And what a massive big shock it must be for you both. You're not being ungrateful at all, you're just being sensible and honest about it all, that's all. Like you said, you had both finally agreed that there will be no more babies. I believe things happen for a reason, and I guess you're meant to have one more baby.
Massive for your sis as well. It must be hard, but there really isn't anything that can be done now.
it must be a huge shock. I could imagine how we would feel if I had an accident after this one - cos this one is definitely our last!!!!
I can't help you with any maternity clothes - cos I'm a big fatty - but I will send you baby clothes and nappies once I'm done with them - thats how sure I am that this is our last
You do not sound ungrateful at all, just in shock as we can all understand.
Everyone knows what a great Mother you are and that you will/do love this baby just as much even if it wasn't planned as such. I agree with Jodi that everything happens for a reason, there is a reason that this precious baby has chosen you and one day you will know that reason.
Best of luck for a happy and healthy pregnancy, I too hope that your sisters IVF is successful so you can celebrate together.
No, you don't sound ungrateful, you sound very much in shock and there is no problems with having practicality along with the shock! HUGE and grats again!
Jodie hun, your mixed feelings are totally understandable I know that you will get over any hurdles and make this work for your family - but it's ok to be feeling nervous and unsure - after all, it is a surprise. I'm thinking of you hun
Becoming pregnant again is a huge mental adjustment even when you are hoping and planning for it, so it's no wonder you're feeling surprised and overwhelmed and a little conflicted about the whole thing right now. Don't feel bad about it.
I didn't feel ready really to have DD4 when she came along. The last part of my pregnancy with DD3 was kind of rough for me, and I was enjoying my "non-pregnant" break (although we did certainly want more babies, so not the same situation as you, I know) when the test turned positive. I was happy, but also really feeling like "I'm not ready yet!!!" It took a few weeks for me to get excited about having another one. But by the time I was 10 weeks or so, I was feeling nothing but joy and excitement, and now that she's here, we couldn't imagine life without her. We love her to bits.
I hope you find yourself feeling the same way soon - less shocked and overwhelmed (along with happy) and just excited to meet one more little person to love and teach and enjoy. I hope your DH is a wonderful supportive man and that he'll be there to listen and sympathise with your feelings right now, and help you work through it.
Adam has been great.... making jokes and such... its funny, the Apple Snails in the fish tank just had babies, the cat is pregnant, and now me!!!
I know once I get to the doc, and get a dating scan, I will be over the shock.
Just wish I had been a little prepared, the negative test really had me convinced!!!
Funny....a year ago today i went to a counsellor, coz i was pg with baby #4 and honestly, honestly didnt know if i could handle it. I remember pulling over in my car, crying my heart out to my mum on the phone telling her 'ive got the worst news...im pregnant...again'. You know, looking back now, its the godamn best thing that has ever happened to us. He is a delight, he is our little boy we had always been dreaming of but never thought we would have, i throughly enjoyed my pregnancy and labour with him...i think after the inital shock, i really embraced it....you will too hon...
I get comments all the time with 4...so i can only imagine what you do, and will go thru.
Man...it takes time to adjust....it really does. We didnt tell people till i was 14 wks pg....cos we both needed time to get used to it. We fought, we both cried, we both laughed.....it was only a year ago, but it seems like a lifetime ago. Coz now, i just do it, im in the baby groove, just prodding along, and im really enjoying it......and i reckon you will too hon, come next June......
I think its lovely that aside from being shocked and a bit unprepared, that you are thinking of your sister and you are aware of how this will affect her. Its nice to see the compassion you have for her situation. You are a thoughtful sister and I bet just as thoughtful as a mum.
Congratulations Jodie! What a shock it must be! You are a wonderful mummy and this little baby has come to you for a reason. Don't worry about what anyone else says, I don't understand it anyway, how can having lots of babies be a bad thing? Sorry to hear about your sister.
Wow. That's a bit overwhelming. You don't come across as ungrateful at all (I would totally tell you) just completely overwhelmed, and it's not surprising!
But you'll be fine! It will be incredible. Congratulations.
Very excited for you Doesn't feel so long ago I read your Ba for baby Harmony and the wait to hear what her name was going to be
Congrats again and h&h 9months!
I am not surprised you are in shock, you had made a massive decision to get rid of all baby stuff and for DH to have a snip, but hay these things all happen for a reason.
Congratulations and I hope your sister gets a BFP and you can be preg together!!
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Our un-planned baby #7........
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) so we literally dont starve. Bad bad timing bub!!!!
for your sis as well. It must be hard, but there really isn't anything that can be done now.
it must be a huge shock. I could imagine how we would feel if I had an accident after this one - cos this one is definitely our last!!!!
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