In my first pregnancy I wore a badge saying "only positive birth stories please, my baby is listening". I agree, a poor choice of conversation for this woman, she should be ashamed.

To put things in perspective, if what she is saying is true, the doctor would have been struck off or fired from the hospital. Accidents do happen in birth, they can happen to anyone, but unsafe practitioners are not allowed to continue. Especially after a high profile case that is "dragged through the courts". I am sure your Ob is very safe and competent, and your birth will be wonderful.