Plus Sized Pregnancy

[WeeMansMummy]

Angela did you ask in the PP store for the mat clothes.... They all stock them but some stores they are hard to find as its a small rack and well hidden. I have done circles around some stores until i either find them or ask. Its best to try on as their sizes are very generous, its also 50% off your 2nd item at the moment

[ezymay]

Ladies if you are looking for maternity bras with Underwire (yes Underwire!!!!) I found some on a site in the uk called figleaves. Now I have giant boobs (16H-I)and mine arrived today and they are great. The wire is soft flexi wire and it has the proper cups for feeding...very happy!! They were reasonably priced too I think with the conversion $40!!! Certainly beats the $190 more than a handful in the city was going to charge me for ONE bra!!!!!!!!! So I suggest get fitted first to get your right size then go online!!

[Ahurani]

Omgggg I want!!

[Ahurani]

I dont feel pregnant I feel so fat and meh *whinge*

[Arimeh]

I'm sure you look pregnant though honey

[Yarrawin]

Ezymay - Which bra of Figleaves did you get? I'm having a good snoop on there atm. Have you received it yet? I don't know if I should wait until bubs arrives and my milk comes in but then I'm going to have to wait for shipping etc so... I dunno. Bras are SO expensive here. I can't wait to get back to the UK for underwear shopping...

Ahurani - I'd like to offer words of comfort but tbh I'm joining you in feeling like that. I feel gross and I'm so bloody peeved at my doctors for telling me how much weight i've gained during this pregnancy. THEY are the ones that put me on calorie supplements - had I had my way I would have stuck to a healthy low sugar diet and I wouldn't have stacked it on. Therefore I'm pi$$ed at them for then turning around and having a go. If you put a woman on 4000 calories a day then wtf do you expect? I keep trying to comfort myself in the fact that we can get into shape after we have our babies, but it isn't really working if I'm honest. Eek... sorry Didn't mean to make that one an 'about me'. But basically... I'm with you atm. I'll bet you're looking amazing though. Honestly.

AFM
Feeling pretty low atm. Feeling super bad about myself (see reply to Ahurani) and just crap in general. I keep coming across pics of myself modelling and I just want to hide. There's a bit about me with some pictures in Cosmopolitan Pregnancy that's coming out this month and I desperately don't want it to run anymore, but there's nothing I can do about it now I'm sore, I'm tired, I'm emotional and I just want this baby out now! I know I don't really and that I need her to keep cooking for another four weeks but... well... you know. Every time I try to cut my calories even a little bit my other condition (PKU) goes a bit out of whack but I've got my doctors on my back about my weight gain and I'm so uncomfy with all the fat bits I've gained. I will let my DH see my belly these days, and that's it. He's not allowed to see my arms, legs, back... nothing. I'm going to have a hell of a time losing this weight and pre-pregnancy I already had 30kg to lose to be healthy

The blood pressure stuff hasn't been quite as bad. No incidents since Saturday though I've felt like I've come pretty close a couple of times today. Antenatal classes tonight, nothing tomorrow and then a fairly social weekend with a Christmas party and a tea party that I don't want to go to but it's that or sit at home alone while DH works, so I know I'll end up going. I did want to go but I'm just feeling so flat and blergh at the moment that I've changed my mind now.

Wow, I'm cheerful today! Sorry about that one ladies.

On the upside Cupcake now has a name so she's not going to have to be Cupcake for the rest of her life, so that's something I guess!

[ezymay]

I got the elomi smoothcup ones. I even ordered some more!! I'm sorry you are feeling crap. Yay for having a name tho... I have no ideas if this one is a boy!!
I'm sorry if you have explained this before (or ignore me if u don't want to answer) but why are you on calorie tablets?
Ahurani I know how tHat feels GBH!!

[angelaartsstudent]

Ditto!

But girls, I want to be honest to you here about me and my weight. I am plus sized. Not healthy plus sized. I have a size 24 bottom and an 18 top. I have been measured and etc by dietician and personal trainer and while I am perfectly in proportion, it's not healthy to be this size.

I wouldn't want to see anyone get the size I am....BUT I don't want to see anyone getting "prego-rexic" either. If we getting silly about it, and don't eat enough calories for ourselves and our babies, our bodies will go into starvation mode and we'll gain unhealthy weight...becuase our bodies will think that we are starving.

I talked to my dietician yesterday. JUST to stay alive - without exercising (SPD is doing me in at the moment) - I need over 2800 calories...that will maintain my current weight. We've put me on a program to eat less than that (becuase my BMI is way over 30), but in a very healthy way. Note that this is a dietician at a women's hospital, so she's used to dealing with preggy women.

I am writing about this becuase last time I was pregnant (and about the same weight - I was about 2kg less last time), a person who had bullied me all throughout highschool started harrassing me on facebook saying how people like me shouldnt breed, I was a fat pig who didnt deserve a baby becuase I was fat and etc etc. They got worse than that but I am not going to quote them. I blocked them from fb and locked my profle but I havent started to get the messages again...from someone who has obviously started a profile then sent a message, then deleted it (becuase of the "this profile is no longer active" thing that comes with it). From the tone of them, I am pretty sure it's the same person.

Yes, I admit to being obese. Yes, it's my fault...but my weight gain was also sped along by being stuffed with medications since I was a teetn (when I started gaining lots) and also my Dad's death affected me a lot. I am not using these as excuses though.

But please ladies, if any of you are thinking about losing weight - do it properly, do it safely. I would suggest that ANYONE trying to lose, get a dietician - they're worth their weight in gold. Also fork out for a personal trainer...even if you can only afford one session a month, they personalise a program for you.

At the moment, your babies need you to be healthy.

If you want to find out how many calories a day you need just to keep your body functioning normally, take you weight in pounds (weight in kilos x 2.2) then x that by 11. That is a BASE, JUST so you stay alive (and maintain current weight). So technically, a healthy pregnant woman should be eating a bit more than that.

In the meantime...love your pregnant bodies.

[Yarrawin]

Ezymay - I have a metabolic condition called Phenylketonuria, which is where the body can't metabolise protein. Because I'm on an extremely low protein diet and I have to maintain blood levels of a certain amino acid in a very specific (and limiting) range in order to have a healthy baby they have got me taking a calorie supplement for the duration of my pregnancy and while all indications are that bub is healthy, it hasn't been kind to me at all. However, Cupcake is the priority here, not me, and so I am just doing what I have to do for her sake and I will worry about me later. I have to take it at the moment because it stops my body from going into a catabolic state, which would then screw my levels up which would damage Cupcake. Doesn't stop me feeling very concious of the weight gain it has brought though. I have to maintain the diet when not pregnant too but the calorie thing isn't an issue then as long as i don't lose weight too fast (not a problem I've ever had! lol).

Angela - Definite words of wisdom there... thank you

[WeeMansMummy]

Yarrawin I love prego cosmo! Tell us what page you are on when it comes out, I'm sure you look goooorgeous!!! Otherwise you wouldn't be in it!!!

[juniper76]

I'm sure you look goooorgeous!!! Otherwise you wouldn't be in it!!!

Agreed!!

Oo, I normally wear the elomi smooth cup (non-maternity) bras. They are soooo good! I miss them terribly.

[Yarrawin]

My other medical condition is out of whack again, I think thanks to stress but can never be too sure. Stressful situation is calming down but kicked off again over the weekend so I've taken some pretty extreme steps that I hope will help.

Problem is, last time it went out of whack like this it took weeks to get back into line and that's damaging to bubs. I have a funny feeling that I'll have my little girl earthside in the next week or two... I'm seriously starting to think that they'll just go in and get her out and I'm kinda freaked out.

[MrsFabuloso]

Big Yarrawin. I hope things settle for you soon. If you're sorried, maybe call your midwives at the hospital? Or OB if you have one. Better to be safe than sorry and maybe you worrying about bub is making it worse with you stressing out? Try to relax a bit hun. Sounds like things are kinda tough at the mo.

[Yarrawin]

Big Yarrawin. I hope things settle for you soon. If you're sorried, maybe call your midwives at the hospital? Or OB if you have one. Better to be safe than sorry and maybe you worrying about bub is making it worse with you stressing out? Try to relax a bit hun. Sounds like things are kinda tough at the mo.

Thanks hun, problem is no-one really knows what happens in these situations. I have an appointment on Thursday so I'm going to speak with them about it then. Obviously if she can stay in even for another week it's better but still scary. Most medical people don't really know about the condition I have - it's quite rare and my mw and the obs at the hospital don't know a huge amount about it (which is part of why I'm so scared I think... I feel like no-one knows what the hell they're doing!)

[ezymay]

Hugs yarrawin. I hope it settles down quickly and bubs can stay put longer. When are you due? I'm on my phone sorry and can't see tickers.

[Yarrawin]

Hugs yarrawin. I hope it settles down quickly and bubs can stay put longer. When are you due? I'm on my phone sorry and can't see tickers.

I'm due mid-Jan... 34 weeks today.

[juniper76]

Do you have a specialist in your condition that they can liaise with? As you say, it'd be better for bub to stay put a little while longer if she can be made safe in there. I hope the appointment on Thursday goes much better than you expect so you can worry a little less.

[WeeMansMummy]

Y- good luck thurs. Keep us updated! (((((hugs)))))