Pre baby blues???

[Cruzey]

Hey everyone. Glad I found a forum for mums to be. Im 16 weeks pregnant and just feel miserable. Everything is getting to me. Im over people telling me what I should and shouldnt be doing everyday. My partner keeps trying to wrap me in cotton wool and bubble wrap which is driving me crazy. Im a vol firefighter and I am still turning out to calls and everyone is having a go at me about that. I enjoy what I do and dont want to stop just yet, I am still very much capable and its not like I am running into burning buildings I mostly just do traffic control now. I dont even want to sleep in bed with my partner. I dont want to go shopping for baby stuff and it doesnt help that my partner just keeps nagging. Im sick of everyone rubbing my belly and being all excited when I am so far from it its not funny. Im just not coping very well and I am at breaking point.

[Purple Penguin]

Tell everyone to bugger off and let you have some peace... Lol

I couldn't stand anyone touching my belly, as far as I'm concerned it's a 'no-go' zone unless I specify otherwise, no one has the right to touch you if you don't want them to.

I think your DP needs to backoff just a bit and give you a little bit of space, there is plenty of time to go baby shopping.

With regard to the volunteering, as long as you feel comfortable and safe doing it, then keep doing it.

[Teeki]

Hi Cruzey, welcome to BB and congrats on your pregnancy!

I was similar to you, I got over everyone really quickly. It wasn't that I wasn't excited about being pregnant - I was ecstatic! - I was just completely over everyone thinking that was the only interesting thing about me. People tried to touch my belly which I hated, so I set them straight about that pretty quick. As PP says, it's your body, no one has the right to touch you without your permission. I also had people calling me Mum - I told them unless I actually am your mother, you can please use my name.

As for your partner, I think it's cute that he's so excited and protective But they can go a bit overboard on the protective said! Tell him that right now, your baby is in the safest place possible, very little is going to happen to him/her in there! Exercise is so bebeficial during pregnancy, and your voluunteer firefighter work would be ideal for that. As long as you're not putting yourself in danger and you're not getting stressed, you'll be fine. Tell everyone else it's really none of their business.

You have loads of time to buy baby stuff. DH and I started at 12 weeks to spread out the cost, but by the third trimester I had nothing left to get, and I was bored! There's no rush

Hope you're feeling better soon, take some time for yourself if you need it

[Cruzey]

Thanks for the replys. The other thing that is getting to me no one ever asks how I am they always ask how the baby is. Its the topic of every conversation. Im getting the You have to breast feed, you have to use cloth nappies, you shouldnt have drugs during labour, and more of the you cant do this or you have to do this. Its my baby!!! I go from being really upset to super angry constantly. And when my partner doesnt like something that I am doing or if I am doing something he doesnt want me to do he tells my mother and then she has a go at me for it too. People act as if your dying or super ill. Im still very much capable to do everything. Sorry about my outburst again. And thank you to those that understand.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this, being pregnant is supposed to be the happiest moment of a womans life. But like me it can one of the not so happiest. I had depression when i was pregnant it sparked from awful morning sickness and the hormones. It didn't help that i had every man and his dog telling me what i have to do with my baby! I got the you have to breastfeed, use cloth nappies, cant find out the sex, USE drugs in labour and dont try and be a hero and not using them give in to the pain..... yep you read that right i had some person i hardly know tell that to me. i got called mummy i didnt matter half the time everyone talked about the baby and yes while thats great they are excited im still me!! DP got very over protective too always told me to cross the road safely and got boys at work to help me lift boxes... gosh im pregnant not an invalid!!

I think you should speak to your GP or if you are seeing a midwife about your feelings, it could just be the hormones or you may have some issues you need to resolve before bubba comes. As for buying for bubba do that when you are ready not when others make you.

BIG

[Teeki]

Yep, that sounds very similar to my experience Cruzey! Everyone only cared about the baby, so I got very good at changing the subject. And if I got really sick of it, I'd ask something specific about that person's life. People love talking about themselves lol.

I got opposite comments to you though, people couldn't believe I'd ever use cloth nappies. So I got told to just use disposables, as they're easier and cleaner; breastfeeding can be hard, formula is easy; don't bother not using the drugs, get an epi as soon as you can ().

I also got asked if I should be driving (at 22 weeks) and if I should be carrying my work 'like that' (at 30 weeks - it was only two folders lol). So yeah, I did tell that particular guy that I'm pregnant, not sick, it doesn't affect my driving ability and my arms do still work lol.

If I were you I'd have a chat to your DP, just let him know how you're feeling and that you'd like him to back off a little. And going to your mum is not a good thing!