I'm so sorry you are feeling like this, being pregnant is supposed to be the happiest moment of a womans life. But like me it can one of the not so happiest. I had depression when i was pregnant it sparked from awful morning sickness and the hormones. It didn't help that i had every man and his dog telling me what i have to do with my baby! I got the you have to breastfeed, use cloth nappies, cant find out the sex, USE drugs in labour and dont try and be a hero and not using them give in to the pain..... yep you read that right i had some person i hardly know tell that to me. i got called mummy i didnt matter half the time everyone talked about the baby and yes while thats great they are excited im still me!! DP got very over protective too always told me to cross the road safely and got boys at work to help me lift boxes... gosh im pregnant not an invalid!!
I think you should speak to your GP or if you are seeing a midwife about your feelings, it could just be the hormones or you may have some issues you need to resolve before bubba comes. As for buying for bubba do that when you are ready not when others make you.
Yep, that sounds very similar to my experience Cruzey! Everyone only cared about the baby, so I got very good at changing the subject. And if I got really sick of it, I'd ask something specific about that person's life. People love talking about themselves lol.
I got opposite comments to you though, people couldn't believe I'd ever use cloth nappies. So I got told to just use disposables, as they're easier and cleaner; breastfeeding can be hard, formula is easy; don't bother not using the drugs, get an epi as soon as you can ().
I also got asked if I should be driving (at 22 weeks) and if I should be carrying my work 'like that' (at 30 weeks - it was only two folders lol). So yeah, I did tell that particular guy that I'm pregnant, not sick, it doesn't affect my driving ability and my arms do still work lol.
If I were you I'd have a chat to your DP, just let him know how you're feeling and that you'd like him to back off a little. And going to your mum is not a good thing!
I think the other thing is you are feeling really really overwhelmed by it all, do go and speak to your GP or Midwife about it, because sometimes it can be more that just hormones, I'm not saying it is, I'm just saying there's a possibility.
But, I can understand why you would be completely over it all. Pregnancy isn't just about a baby, you are putting in the hard yards and bringing this new life into the world, people should be asking how you are!
When it comes down to the nitty gritty stuff like nappies, feeding and labour... you do what is right for you, noone else can tell you what you should do.
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