Reasons for not finding out the sex at the 20 week ultrasound

[OceanPrincess]

We found out with our first two and I don't want to with this one. It was a logistical thing for the first two - I wanted to know what colour to buy! Unlike you I love pink

Anyway I say we don't need to find out this time - we can just take two sets of clothes to hosp, one pink and one blue. I want me or DH to be the first to know the sex by lifting baby up and announcing to the world "It's a boy! Or girl!!"

DH says that is unrealistic as the sonographer will most likely know from the scan and the midwife will most likely see before me/him. But I want to try.

And funnily enough, all our friends are on my side.

[RainbowBrite]

My XDH and I did not find out for the first two and it was a wonderful surprise.
We where so overwhelmed when I first was born the midwife had to ask us if we wanted to know
The next five I found out what we were having but that was more a logistic thing, it was easier to get everything sorted before the birth and we named them so the other kids used their names for the pregnancy and it encouraged sibling bonding...I don't think it took away from the birth at all.

[Hunter Mum]

I didn't find out a) because I needed a c/s and I wanted something to be a surprise and b) I know quite a few people who they have gotten it wrong and they've ended up with gender specific items that can't be used, and disappointed when they didn't get what they thought they were having.

Good luck convincing your DH!

[Nai]

We didn't find out with either. I wanted DP to be the person to announce to me what the baby was. Men aren't able to be as involved in the pregnancy and birth and we felt that this was one of the most important things and that as the father it was his way to be involved with the birth. We also didn't want to be told this amazing piece of information by some random ultrasound person that we had never met before in our lives!

[Lolpigs]

We didn't find out with either. I wanted DP to be the person to announce to me what the baby was. Men aren't able to be as involved in the pregnancy and birth and we felt that this was one of the most important things and that as the father it was his way to be involved with the birth. We also didn't want to be told this amazing piece of information by some random ultrasound person that we had never met before in our lives!

Yep forgot this bit too , I have this in out birth plan we want to find out the sex ourselves as it is a surprise

[Epacris]

I’ve never found out, surprises are just the best!!! For my last baby I got to see him first and I got to announce to everyone that it was a little boy. Best feeling ever!

[sloane]

we didn't find out with DS & we won't be finding out this time either (i had a cvs 3 weeks ago & had the option today to find out the sex & i was slightly tempted but said no!).

apart from the occasional time when they get it wrong (or you get your heart set on finding out & then the baby doesn't cooperate during the scan!), we just wanted the surprise factor. wrt the clothing - they stay in NB clothing for such a short time that i didn't mind DS being in predominately gender-neutral clothing for the first few weeks - and people got excited to buy us something blue after he was born. then since he's been out of NB clothing i've had heaps of time to buy him 'boy' clothes!

i think people will still buy you presents without knowing the gender & it may help to direct them to more practical presents anyhow - if they're lost for what to buy they could get you NB nappies (sposie or cloth), wraps, put money towards the bigger items like the pram or car seat etc.

i think if he does find out then he should respect your wish to not know & he should keep it a secret. if he can't keep the secret then he shouldn't be allowed to know!

[zilly]

I like the idea of him getting to announce it at the birth...

Earlier on he said he would keep it secret, so I was quite happy to let him ask the sonographer after I had walked out, but today he said he wouldn't be able to keep it a secret...