Reasons for not finding out the sex at the 20 week ultrasound

[Hunter Mum]

I didn't find out a) because I needed a c/s and I wanted something to be a surprise and b) I know quite a few people who they have gotten it wrong and they've ended up with gender specific items that can't be used, and disappointed when they didn't get what they thought they were having.

Good luck convincing your DH!

[Nai]

We didn't find out with either. I wanted DP to be the person to announce to me what the baby was. Men aren't able to be as involved in the pregnancy and birth and we felt that this was one of the most important things and that as the father it was his way to be involved with the birth. We also didn't want to be told this amazing piece of information by some random ultrasound person that we had never met before in our lives!

[Lolpigs]

We didn't find out with either. I wanted DP to be the person to announce to me what the baby was. Men aren't able to be as involved in the pregnancy and birth and we felt that this was one of the most important things and that as the father it was his way to be involved with the birth. We also didn't want to be told this amazing piece of information by some random ultrasound person that we had never met before in our lives!

Yep forgot this bit too , I have this in out birth plan we want to find out the sex ourselves as it is a surprise

[Epacris]

I’ve never found out, surprises are just the best!!! For my last baby I got to see him first and I got to announce to everyone that it was a little boy. Best feeling ever!

[sloane]

we didn't find out with DS & we won't be finding out this time either (i had a cvs 3 weeks ago & had the option today to find out the sex & i was slightly tempted but said no!).

apart from the occasional time when they get it wrong (or you get your heart set on finding out & then the baby doesn't cooperate during the scan!), we just wanted the surprise factor. wrt the clothing - they stay in NB clothing for such a short time that i didn't mind DS being in predominately gender-neutral clothing for the first few weeks - and people got excited to buy us something blue after he was born. then since he's been out of NB clothing i've had heaps of time to buy him 'boy' clothes!

i think people will still buy you presents without knowing the gender & it may help to direct them to more practical presents anyhow - if they're lost for what to buy they could get you NB nappies (sposie or cloth), wraps, put money towards the bigger items like the pram or car seat etc.

i think if he does find out then he should respect your wish to not know & he should keep it a secret. if he can't keep the secret then he shouldn't be allowed to know!

[zilly]

I like the idea of him getting to announce it at the birth...

Earlier on he said he would keep it secret, so I was quite happy to let him ask the sonographer after I had walked out, but today he said he wouldn't be able to keep it a secret...

[teepee2]

The birth of your baby is always going to be such a special time but the suspense leading up to it and then the excitement and surprise when the baby is born is just priceless - well it was for us anyway. We've had 3 and didnt find out the sex for any of them. It was very tempting especially with the 2nd two but after experiencing the excitment of it all when our DD was born we decided not to find out with the others either.

This is one of the only true surprises in life!

[purplepixie1978]

My DH was adamant that we had to find out beforehand, even though I didn't want to... then he broke his ankle really badly when I was 11 weeks pg and was laid up for three months. During that time we went for the scan and I was all set to relent and let him find out so that he had something to make him happy. When I offered, he said, "No, I'll wait. If there's one thing this injury has taught me, it's patience." The moment he found out what we had was magic.

I loved the moment I found out too - DH and the ob handed DD to me and she kicked the umbilical cord out of the way and I could see - "A girl!" I exclaimed.

I hope you get your wish. I'd be pushing for the gender in a sealed envelope trick. Then hide it. Or lose it or put a scratch lotto ticket in an identical envelope... sorry. Being evil.

[Early Kids]

We didn't find out for either of ours, was nice to ask what the sex was

[Cass72]

My DH would keep it a secret and that would drive me batty! I would spend the next 20 weeks trying to get the info out of him!

Either way you go it's a wonderful thing to finally meet your little person anyway.

I didn't know with DS1 and proudly announced to EVERYONE that I had son. DH and I found out with DS2 (our first together) and it didn't change the awe that I felt when I met our little man for the first. That being said, if our FET is a success next year (sorry! had to pop that in .... we're going to go for it in March next year!) I don't want to know.... which brings me back to my first comment: DH will drive me batty keeping it a secret!!