I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 27, we have been together for 2 years and after the first month I found out I was pregnant...We decided to have an abortion, a decision I have regretted ever since. And I have now found out that I am 8 weeks pregnant again, this time however, I was taking the pill every day, without fail! So very unexpected! The complicated part of this is my boyfriend already has 2 children from a previous relationship aged 7 and 4 and half...a relationship that ended very badly and his ex has not allowed to see them since it ended, 4 years ago. And she has since had another child. This has been so hard on him and I've always tried to support him through it and have taken our relationship slowly so that he can learn to trust me, as I know he is so scared of the same thing happening again! He wants to find the children, but she has been very difficult and made the situation very hard so that he is scared and apprehensive about going through all the courts, and then there is rebuilding a relationship with his young kids after such a long absence!! He has said to me before that when I got pregnant before, he thought it would be unfair on his other kids for him to have another, when he doesn't fight for them! The last thing I wanted to do, was to throw this in his lap, when we "decided" to have a child, I wanted it to be a happy occasion and now it is going to be one filled with hurt! I would never be able to have another abortion, it has traumatised me and of course I have always wanted to have a child. I know that I am ready, but my boyfriend is not and this is going to crush him!! Things are going so well and he is really beginning to move forward with me in his life and now this is going to turn everything upside down. I don't want to lose him either! I just don't know how to tell him.......