Help! How do I tell my boyfriend I'm pregnant

[Vixstar]

Mmmm that is a toughy but firstly - CONGRATS!!!!!!

I guess all you can do is to tell him. It takes 2 to tango and like you said, you were on the pill. As for an abortion.....it is your body and your choice....do what you feel is right for you...regardless of the decision.

Massive *HUGS* to you.

xxxx

[BrightSparkles]

Best to be honest and up front no matter how hard it is (and is probably)going to be. I think he'd rather you be honest with him than hide it from it from him.
Like you said...it takes 2 and he needs to take responsability for his part in this. In the end, the choice is up to you... after all, your the person who is growing a new life inside of you.
Hope it goes well. We are here if you need to chat.

CONGRATULATIONS though

[Ryatha]

first of all CONGRATS!

Second: Sit him down and tell him honestly. The same thing happened with me and DH - we were using protection and I found out I was pregnant. His reaction was one of happiness, even though it was a surprise and we really really weren't planning a pregnancy. You never know what is going to happen, but honesty is the best.

goodluck

[Rivlas]

Congratulations.
Just be open and honest with him and I think you might be in for a pleasant surprise after he gets over the shock. You have done nothing wrong and these things happen.
All the best

[~clover~]

Just wanted to wish you luck. Please be honest. Thats the most important thing. I understand how he feels about it being unfair to his other children, but it also might push him that little bit harder to try & find them.
Its unfair for him to put his whole life on hold at the same time. As much as he needs to get in touch with his kids, he does still need to live.
FWIW DH didn't meet his father til he was 19, & while he felt betrayed that his father didn't want to know him, he feels nothing against his father's other children. They aren't as close as brothers & sister yet, but they are mates for now DH actually went out of his way to find them after not seeing or hearing from any of them in 7 years.
I understand all your feelings too.
Good luck to you both xx

[JCE0810]

CONGRATS!!

I think you just need to sit down with him and be honest with him and take it from there

[Jes13]

Thanks for all your kind words!! I do want to be honest, i know that is the best way, but I am so petrified of the outcome and I know its going to change everything!! I hope that it will encourage him to fight harder for his other kids and that he will eventually accept this. But I do know that initially it is not going to go well...he doesn't react well with pressure and he is going to freak out...He is a very deep person, but he is terrible at showing it and tends to say and act the opposite of what he is feeling, because he is scared of his actual feelings! He is a pain (he is a man lol), and I love him sooo much!!

I really needed to just tell someone else, and I'm glad I came across this forum. I am a person that hates confrontation and keep bottled, but I know that I can't do that in this situation, but I know thats why I'm scared of actually having to tell him...arrggh life sure does throw its curve balls!!

[Ryatha]

I really needed to just tell someone else, and I'm glad I came across this forum. I am a person that hates confrontation and keep bottled, but I know that I can't do that in this situation, but I know thats why I'm scared of actually having to tell him...arrggh life sure does throw its curve balls!!

Thats the great thing about BB - I come on here, vent away and always feel so much better. Everyone is so supportive