Wow mbear.... don't be talked into the fact that her reaction was in any way acceptable. It wasn't but some people are just so caught up in thier own bubble that they literally don't have a clue about your feelings.

Just to add some perspective, my SIL was two weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy & she lost her precious little girl at 20 weeks. This was a massive reason that she could have been quite uncomfortable around me but she CHOSE to handle the situation with absolute dignity, stregth & support. As painful as it is for her she NEVER misses an opportunity to be kind & genuinely loving to both myself & my baby when I see her. She is an absolute inspiration.

It would be incredibly hard for her at times but she made a CHOICE & your SIL, unfortunately, chose herself & her own needs for attention & consolation at your expense.

I am really sorry aboiut how awful it has made you feel but chin up.... I am sure she doesn't intend this to ruin your whole pregnancy. She is probably more on the ignorant/selfish side than the evil one. Just smile & give her the space to heal herself while you look forward to your beautiful babies arrival