NOT AT ALL!!! I have a close friend who for my entire pregnancy with DD said not to find out and was "disappointed" when we did... uhhhh its MY baby!
Then this pregnancy everytime i see her its "remember, say it with me... I WILL NOT FIND OUT THE SEX OF MY BABY.."
Her reasoning is that when the baby is born people wont care as much "oh you had the baby.." ... ummm this baby will be grand baby number 10 on my DPs side and we all still get very excited when a new baby is born. And if no one cares then they aren't really our friends are they and who thinks like that anyways??
How ridiculous that people have such a strong opinion on something that is totally your choice. I guess I just don't see the big deal. I desperately wanted to know with my DS andso did hubby, so we found out at 19 weeks. We knew what DD would be before conception. This bub came as quite a surprise, so this time around I've decided to keep the secret and I have no idea what this bub is. Hubby has known the gender since 12 weeks though. *shrug* I just don't see how that impacts anyone else's life
I am glad I am not the only one... i totally get you are either one or the other but I would never put my views that strongly onto someone else... and make them feel guilty for choosing one way or the other!
I dont want to walk on egg shells worrying about how someone is going to react... its not fair!
Remember, an opinion is not a fact. It's just one person's belief or preference. Ignore them. It's none of their business.
You'll also find people like to share their opinions about names. For this reason we would excitedly tell people made up names, rather than hear them tell us they didnt like our name preferences.
The need to try to change your mind is just a projection of their own issues. Just imagine holding a mirror up to them and sending their opinions back to them.
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