How ridiculous that people have such a strong opinion on something that is totally your choice. I guess I just don't see the big deal. I desperately wanted to know with my DS andso did hubby, so we found out at 19 weeks. We knew what DD would be before conception. This bub came as quite a surprise, so this time around I've decided to keep the secret and I have no idea what this bub is. Hubby has known the gender since 12 weeks though. *shrug* I just don't see how that impacts anyone else's life