Just a thought about the change table - I saw at Ikea that they had made a change table from a fold down panel on the front of a wall unit type piece of furniture- the bottom part had drawers and the top part shelves- wondering whether this could suit better than a normal change table - or if you could get something similar made up with the change table shelf at the right height for you?

Not sure if that description made sense, but looked online - the product is HENSVIK cabinet with changing table.