Did you end up with another cs? No, i had an amazing, beautiful natural birth, even though DS was 4.62kgs and had a 38cm head
Did you have a rupture? No, the risk of this is actually incredibly small
Was it a different sort of pg (eg, could you do all normal things, like lifting etc)? Nope, completely normal
Was it a constant worry that you might rupture? Not at all, once i had done some research. When i was in labour and getting a bit panicky though when i felt uncomfortable across my scar and freaked out that i was rupturing, this was the point i decided to go to hospital and found out not only was there no problem but i was already 8cms!
Good luck to you, second time round after a c/s (depending on the reason for it of course) your challenges are 99% emotional, 1 % physical IMO
I'm really sorry for your loss and can somewhat relate to how you are feeling
I know that nobody can say for sure but I personally think that mindset can have a lot to do with how quickly/if you fall pregnant again. I had a missed miscarriage in 2007, and waited over a year before I eventually fell pregnant with my son. I spent the year worrying about falling pregnant, not falling pregnant and just about everything else I could worry about. We tried and tried and failed and failed to fall pregnant again. The very month my dh put his foot down and said enough trying, enough temp taking, clock watching and making him feel like a piece of meat I fell pregnant and had a successful and healthy pregnancy. After a long, gruelling and uneventful labour I was given an emergency c/s to birth my son. Thankfully for me, I have had no personal issues, regrets or remorse about this birth.
I fell pregnant again in 2009. We hadn't been making such a big deal about trying to conceive but I was very aware of my body & cycles. I miscarried at 8 weeks. This was again devestating to me as I found out again through a scan as again my body didn't miscarry. I didn't attribute this to my previous c/s at all at the time and don't now as I know that sometimes these things just happen.
I am now nearly 37 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have opted for an elective c/s as I believe this is the best way for me to birth my child. I have had no complications with this pregnancy, the pregnancy has been the same as my first, lifting no problem. I'm still lifting my toddler without any problems (although after reading Tanstars response realise I probably should be laying off a little). I haven't worried once if I would rupture, and even if I had decided to try for a Vbac I wouldn't worry too much, knowing I was in good hands.
Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies when we let our minds take us away. Think of all the positive things, you have had a successful pregnancy and your body knows what to do and just because you have had one loss does not mean you will suffer another.
Be kind to yourself, try to relax and stop worrying. No amount of brain pain will stop what will be.
BIG hugs to you hon. Invite a positive mind to join you, it will help you endlessly
Sirenz hun, knowledge is power. Make the best informed decision for you. Read all you can and find out what the risks really are, not what the scare tacticians would have you believe.
I will tell you my story because you asked.
DS pregnancy was a fair bit smoother than DD's in terms of pregnancy after c/s. I did have a complication that wasn't discovered until my second c/s and that was a dehiscence of the uterine scar. That happened to me at 24 weeks (they think). In any further pregs I will be requesting u/s of my uterine scar to check it's viability. It (rupturing) honestly never even occurred to me until I was in theatre and all of a sudden it was an emergency (by that time though I was open and they could see what was going on).
I didn't rupture because my body didn't go into labour. There are a couple of girls on here that have, but remember that is a rare complication.
I have double sutures in my uterus now.
I was on rest throughout the third tri, but that didn't stop me from living day to day and wasn't a huge restriction. The rest was because they 'thought' I had a hidden abruption, not anything to do with my scar). I still had a toddler to look after.
I also had a loss before DS at 12 weeks and TBH I never wanted to go through that again. I can't remember what changed or how I managed that intense fear - I really wish I could tell you, but I also wantedto offer some empathy
I have now had 2 c-sections. With the second pregnancy I had absolutely no complications relating to the previous cs. No unusual pain or anything at the scar site. And I was more active with the second preg with a toddler to run around after. The thought of a rupture whilst pregnant never crossed my mind. Just remember your scar is strong hun.
I did have a second CS but it wasn't related to the first one.
What complications did you experience? I had no trouble falling pregnant again and had a perfectly trouble-free pregnancy, I exercised all the way through and had no complications at all
Did you end up with another cs? Yes it was all very quick and I recovered even faster and better than the first one
Did you have a rupture? Yes, I was about to (hence the second c/s) but I recognised the signs and my OB acted quickly and everything was fine
Was it a different sort of pg (eg, could you do all normal things, like lifting etc)? I found that I was bigger so towards the end there were things that were more uncomfortable, everything else was fine except that I had to do it all on much less sleep!! You don't get to have as much rest the second time around when you are running around after a toddler
Was it a constant worry that you might rupture? I never thought I would but I made sure I was informed so I listened to my body and went with my instincts.
Would I do it again (if I wanted more than 2 kids)? Yes I would and I would recommend anyone to still go for a VBAC and make sure you are informed
just want to thank you all for your replies it means alot to me to hear your stories (even positive ones with a rupture). I guess I am just so worried with having 2 losses already, i just want to get it right this time.
I do understand that rupture is very rare, but i'm also aware that it does happen and that is what i can't get out of my mind Unfortunately for me (and my poor dh), I am a 'worryer', its in my nature, its something that I can't control and I constantly worry about anything and everything.
As Maybub said, sometimes we can be our own worst enemies, and this certainly rings true for me I need to learn self control and think positive. I do remember when we were trying for our ds, (he took a long time to conceive) that we were starting to think we might need some help, and as soon as we relaxed (we were on a beach holiday together when we concieved him ) and just decided to go with the flow, it happened almost immediately
Anyway, thanks again for all of your replies, I love bellybelly, don't know where i would be without it and all you wonderful ladies. You have definately helped me put into perspective a little more about the rupturing risk and how low it is
can't wait to get pg and feel all those wonderful baby movements and the love
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Unfortunately for me (and my poor dh), I am a 'worryer', its in my nature, its something that I can't control and I constantly worry about anything and everything.
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