Sirenz

I'm really sorry for your loss and can somewhat relate to how you are feeling

I know that nobody can say for sure but I personally think that mindset can have a lot to do with how quickly/if you fall pregnant again. I had a missed miscarriage in 2007, and waited over a year before I eventually fell pregnant with my son. I spent the year worrying about falling pregnant, not falling pregnant and just about everything else I could worry about. We tried and tried and failed and failed to fall pregnant again. The very month my dh put his foot down and said enough trying, enough temp taking, clock watching and making him feel like a piece of meat I fell pregnant and had a successful and healthy pregnancy. After a long, gruelling and uneventful labour I was given an emergency c/s to birth my son. Thankfully for me, I have had no personal issues, regrets or remorse about this birth.

I fell pregnant again in 2009. We hadn't been making such a big deal about trying to conceive but I was very aware of my body & cycles. I miscarried at 8 weeks. This was again devestating to me as I found out again through a scan as again my body didn't miscarry. I didn't attribute this to my previous c/s at all at the time and don't now as I know that sometimes these things just happen.

I am now nearly 37 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have opted for an elective c/s as I believe this is the best way for me to birth my child. I have had no complications with this pregnancy, the pregnancy has been the same as my first, lifting no problem. I'm still lifting my toddler without any problems (although after reading Tanstars response realise I probably should be laying off a little). I haven't worried once if I would rupture, and even if I had decided to try for a Vbac I wouldn't worry too much, knowing I was in good hands.

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies when we let our minds take us away. Think of all the positive things, you have had a successful pregnancy and your body knows what to do and just because you have had one loss does not mean you will suffer another.

Be kind to yourself, try to relax and stop worrying. No amount of brain pain will stop what will be.

BIG hugs to you hon. Invite a positive mind to join you, it will help you endlessly