Tell me why I should or shouldn't buy.....

[blessedatlast]

Yeah, I'm not that paranoid. I'm doing quite well actually. I don't think I'll bother. I am closely monitored anyway, at least every 2 - 4 weeks I'll have an appointment.

My main issue with any form of monitoring like that is that it feeds into anxiety and creates an environment where you're not trusting your body or that things will be okay. I understand yours is a unique situation so I hope this view doesn't offend you.

Not offended, but ROFL at trusting my body and that everything will be ok. Once I passed 12wks with the twins I thought things would be ok. Then once I got the stitch in at 19wks I thought things would be ok. When my babies were born alive at 24wks I thought things *may* be ok. They weren't and I don't trust my body. It failed my babies. They were perfect, it was my body that couldn't hold them which is what caused their death.. In my case increased monitoring doesn't make me more anxious, it makes me less anxious. The fact that I have the option to be closely monitored makes me see the need for it less. However I also had 2 big bleeds at 10 and 12wks, which increased my anxiety. I think I'm coping quite well though.. It's just going to be a long 9wks to get passed 24wks.. Lots of milestones to focus on in this pregnancy..

[Ozziehoffy]

Abs, I think you are indeed doing a brilliant job with your coping!! love ya heaps

[blessedatlast]

Thanks, I'm a big brave Mummy! Being at the hospital is hard. Lots of triggers that make me feel right back where I was 2 and a half years ago..

[nattyfred]

If you think anything will give you peace of mind, then you should do it You have good reason to stress and to recognize that and try to alleviate it is probably the most comforting thing you can do. So if you want one = pro, if you dont = con lol

[Arcadia]

BAL...I didn't know your full story and feel a little sheepish now...

[blessedatlast]

It's ok Arcadia, it is hard to trust my body when I feel it has let me down so much. It also comes from TTC as well. It took me years to fall pregnant, I was with my current partner for 3yrs before the twins were conceived. Then it took clomid to conceive this baby. I just feel like my body has failed me in that way, especially because I'm so maternal, and being a mother is all I have ever wanted. It is a hard pill to swallow when you hear of young drug addicts managing to fall pregnant and carry a baby to term when i do all the 'right' things and still don't get to take my baby home at the end. I am working through all this stuff though, slowly, but surely. At the beginning of this pregnancy I meditated and focused on trusting my body and my baby. So far, so good apart from the bleeds

[LuluHB]

Its bloody awful when you no longer believe that if you do everything you're supposed to, then your body just does what it is intended to do. I remember having to walk past groups of pregnant women smoking at the hospital entrance after another loss and boy, the desire to smack them all was pretty intense.

It is so hard and it is so completely unfair when you are robbed of what should be a joyous experience, but hang in there lovely. It is your turn to bring home a beautiful, snuggly warm bub.

Its great you're having regular monitoring, but if you need just another quick peek in between scheduled scans if you're having a bad day, don't hesitate to contact your hospital/OB. Your mental/emotional wellbeing is paramount.

[~ Mylitta ~]

I LOVED my doppler when pregnant with both my babies. Even thought the box said "from 12 weeks" I first heard my son's heartbeat at 10 weeks, and my daughters at 9 weeks. We only ever used it for a minute or two at a time, but it was magical.

Not only did we have the peace of mind of hearing that little heart beating away, but I think it also helped us form that early bond with our babies. It also gave DH a way to feel like he was a bit more of a part of the pregnancies.

When it comes to the health side of things I'm usually the first to err on the side of caution, but with ultrasounds having been used for soooooo many years and so frequently I am convinced that it would be known by now if they were causing any harm at all. Having said that, we still limited our time with the doppler, but more so in case it the fluid waves the sounds waves causes were uncomfortable for the baby. You'd think if that was the case though, hat babies would become super active when you are having an ultrasound, but my babies both had a tendency to sleep during ultrasounds, lol.

Anyway, if you are keeping count of yay and nay's, then I'm definitely in the "yay column"

[AJC]

I have a doppler. I bought it when I was around 11 weeks with this bub. I found a hb for the first time at 11 wks 6 days. I currently use it around twice a week for less than a minute each time. For me the doppler has offered peace of mind but I can see how it would offer anxiety often too. I use it simply because I just love hearing that little hb when I need to. This pg I have anterior placenta so movements are not as soon as as strong as DS so I will probably stop using it as often once I get more regular movements. Big Hugs - I can relate slightly to the way you are feeling, I had two m/c prior to DS and then I had some early and late bleeding with his pg. He was a clomid bub too.