I think you should tell her you'll need her support if it goes te other way
:yeahthat:

I told more people the second time round than the first. I found that the support was really important to me, and I had a fairly good idea of which friends would be wonderful, and which ones might be toxic.

I told my mum on her birthday, it was the same day as our dating scan. We told DH's mum at about 8 weeks.