Hi everyone,
thanks again for your support.
am having some moments, partly when i read through this thread, when i have some feelings of being "okay" about the boy thing. im sure i will come to accept it in time.
went to buy some little boy clothes (even tho we already have heaps from boy no.1) today to try to cheer myself up about it, but left the shop in tears because of all the BEAUTIFUL girl clothes...oh well...
am also trying to remind myself of the advantages...many of which you have all mentioned, thanks again.
btw, for those who are interested in some studies on the accuracy of determining gender at the 12 week scan, there are some links below.

http://www.ob-ultrasound.net/genderfaq.html
http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi...999.13050305.x