I agree with Kimnastics and Marlene - It must be so hard for you at the moment, although I can't say I know how you feel but I think it is important for you to find out why this is happening, I'm not sure if it is easier for them to determine it straight after a m/c or if they can do it at any time but if they can find out then you may just be able to prevent it happening again and it could put your mind to rest knowing that next time things are going to happen differently because next time you and your HCP will know more.

Next time you will still be scared but hopefully a little more confident (I know not the right word) then if you didn't know what happened the last two times.

I'm thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs and ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on should u need them.