Hi just wanted to add, my ds was with me for pretty much my entire labour. Dh took him away when the actual birthing part was happening. For the earlier parts, he was happy to watch a DVD.

It does scare them a little, I could see that on ds's face but it definately helped him understand what was going on. I don't think it traumatised him at all, and had it had all been better planned and prepared for, the distress for him would have been even more minimal.

Just food for thought