What excuse can I use?

[MrsB26]

My friends would notice too if i wasnt drinking at a special occassion, even though i usually only have 1 or 2. I was pg at my dh's 30th so i stashed a bottle of non alcoholic wine (from the supermarket) in the back of the fridge and just sipped that during the night. I guess you could rinse out an old screw top chardy bottle and fill it with something else. I guess you might still have the problem of sharing

Good luck and have a super time whatever you decide

[Indadhanu]

Hmmm... its sad how we have to think of 'excuses' because just saying "don't feel like it" is never good enough

I don't really like the pretend drinking one, because it can backfire in so many ways. Like someone buying you a drink, or pouring your drink...

I don't drink anyway, but on my mums 40th there were people I didn't know who asked why I wasn't drinking (and no one knew I was pregnant and so I couldn't just say that) I just said "I don't want to" and if someone asked me why I'd go into a speil of how everyone these days expects you to be drinking, everyone thinks its completely normal and acceptable to get trashed, and I was making a stand against it and showing people that you can have a perfectly good time by not drinking. It shut them up

[Pretty Butterfly]

As you said 'child free', are you leaving your 2 yr old with someone?? I'd use the excuse that your little one wasn't feeling the best, and you may have to go back to her at any time, and need to keep your wits about you. No one can argue with staying sober for your baby, who might be sick!!! Just add a few, "gee, wish i could drink too, maybe next time" and you should be fine!! Good luck!!

[Bathsheba]

I don't do the pretend drinking thing. I either say I don't feel well, (have a headache) and add that alcohol makes it worse, or I have a lemon, lime and bitters (light on the bitters). Ginger beer is the best drink though, especially if you feel morning sick, and it looks alcoholic. Honestly, do people really care??? No one has ever asked me why I'm not drinking... maybe I just mix with oblivious people

Needing to be sober to care for other children is a very good idea Jodie! Although childless people don't often "get" that you need to not be in a deep sleep/hungover when a child wakes up crying in the night or is sick.

[Leigh26]

Thanks for all your ideas, I can't use the excuse that my child is sick and that I may have to go home because we live in Cairns and are actually flying to Brisbane for that weekend. My mum is looking after my daughter. So there isn't really any excuse for me not to let my hair down and enjoy myself (well that's what they'll all be saying). My DH said maybe we should just tell them all that I am pregnant but after having 2 miscarriages I would really prefer to wait on telling everyone until I am at least 12 wks, it's just easier for me.

Maybe I could use the excuse that Lulu2 suggested and say that during the week when we arrive home I am getting tests done to find out the causes of my past miscarriages and why it is taking me so long to fall pregnant and that I cant have alcohol for a week before the tests. That would work and that way they'll know I definitely can't drink.

[fionas]

Yep Lulu's idea is good and foolproof.

Otherwise, maybe claim cystitis.

If you don't know, cystitis makes it painful to wee and can be caused by being dehydrated so alcohol definitely makes it worse. And you have to go to the loo all the time but not much comes out (so could also explain you going to the loo a lot if you need to). But it's not something that would really affect your weekend so you don't have to pretend to be sicker than you are. You could also say you'd had too much to drink the night before you went away and that's what brought it on.

Plus because it's affecting something "down there", people tend not to ask too many questions.

[Bathsheba]

Yes! Cystitis!(UTI, urinary tract infection) Brilliant suggestion! With the fertility tests you'd have to be certain that one of your friends isn't in the medical field... or could be facing even more questions.

[Leigh26]

Thanks Fiona, that sounds great!!! Like you said it wont affect my weekend and I can still do everything that we plan on doing that weekend. Fantastic idea.

[AnyDream]

Do you know what, perceptive friends will guess regardless or not of whether you have the right excuse! Enjoy your weekend!