Its all good and well that the hospitals and magazines and books say we should have this and that for LO's arrival. But as existing moms, what are some of the things you should have known and wish you were told, wish you bought but you didn't and any tips would be great.
I think there's a few threads on this in the Baby and Toddler Forum It's very confusing at first, I know! Just remember, though, even if others recommend a product or book it still may not be for you or your baby... you'll work it out when s/he gets there!
That breastfeeding is bloody hard but so rewarding if you can see through the rough patch of the first few months. That the majority of babies don't sleep through the night, and sometimes barely sleep at all during the night, and that's completely normal, but it will not go on forever. That your breasts go from rock hard full of milk to deflated and it doesn't mean you don't have enough milk. That babies aren't trying to manipulate you when they cry, they cry because they need you. That if you go with the flow of your baby's cues and needs and don't try to make them fit into a routine you think you need to set, you'll both be happier and more content. And that you should follow your instincts and love and cuddle and kiss and be as responsive to your baby as you desire because you can't spoil you baby, you're in fact developing a bond that will see your baby grow into a secure, settled, trusting child.
I'm only 7 months into my journey of motherhood...but here's some stuff I wish I had known...
That for all the baby books you can read (and there's plenty out there!), no-one has written a book on your baby.
Trust your instincts like you never have before!!!
Don't be scared at how overwhelming it can feel in the first few weeks. This feeling will pass!
Just when you think you've sorted it all out...your baby will change! Just go with the flow and know that your little one is developing at a rate that will never be repeated!
If someone offers to cook or clean or just help out...accept the offer!
To get through the 'witching hours' (unsettled period of day), try cluster feeding
In the first few weeks, don't worry if you're still in your pj's at lunch time...try and book visitors in for the afternoon, that way you don't put pressure on yourself to be ready first thing in the morning!
Things I don't think I could live without...
grobags (not straight away, but after about 3 months)
angelcare nappy disposal unit
dummies (happy baby brand)
"The Wonder Weeks" book
Bonds baby clothes (stretchy, durable and easy to mix and match)
electric breast pump
grandparents!
And most importantly, remember to enjoy the journey...it's truly miraculous!
There are lots of things but the biggest in relation to sleep is: don't letthem get overtired!! Just because they are not crying doesn't mean they aren't tired. When they show tired signs put them to bed!!
Umm...I really wish someone would have told me not to worry about routines and all that jazz for the first 3 months - they are so little, so young and you will blink and miss it!!
Really, seriously, listen to people when they tell you that you need to enjoy them while they are small - one day you will wake up and they a rolling over and squealing!! lol
Oh, and cloth nappies. I wish someone had shown me the wonderful world of cloth earlier in my pg...We have used cloth since day one and if I could tell every new mum how easy and simple and cost effective they are to use, then I would.
What a new mom should know
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It's very confusing at first, I know! Just remember, though, even if others recommend a product or book it still may not be for you or your baby... you'll work it out when s/he gets there!
they are scary
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